Availability is an important topic when it comes to our interactions with others.
Being available all the time isn't always a bad thing. I just think that human nature has made it seem like a bad thing. Here's why.
When you're always available, some people tend to take you for granted. These people tend to see it as a normal thing so they don't appreciate it.
As a result, those who always try to be available start withdrawing and change, even for others.
I think it's a good thing to be available for your friends and significant other. Being available means being there for them. It means offering that companionship. It also means not letting them go through things alone, especially through tough times.
Being available is in fact, a show of love. It means you're willing to offer your time to this person even though it may be inconvenient for you. Being available is a form of care. A show of solidarity. I think it is a beautiful thing.
Unfortunately, in today's world, people are mistaking being always available as a flaw. They see it as you not having something better to do with your life. It's just like in life. When you have too much of anything, you take it for granted.
Sometimes, people tend to use you because you've made youself available always. It's an unfortunate part of human behaviour but it happens.
People use you because that time you give to them, they see it as their automatic right. It's very thoughtful when someone makes themself always available, I believe it should be very much appreciated and not abused. That is a gesture that you can barely get from people these days.
Everyone is busy. Everyone has things they are occupied with. There are distractions everywhere. Problems come on a daily basis that needs solutions. All of these things take our time. So when someone makes themself always available to you, it is something that you should very much appreciate and not misuse or take for granted.
I have made myself always available for some people who were really close to me. Some were worth it. They cherished my availability and didn't take it for granted.
There were others who took it for granted. However, irrespective of the outcome, it didn't make me change my habit of being available and showing up for the people dear to me. That's what friendships and relationships are about.