Two days ago, a friend of mine called to tell me about her resignation from her company. She said she didn’t want me to hear it elsewhere and so she wanted to tell me herself. We spoke about what led to her decision and dropped off the call.
Yesterday, she sent me a voice not on WhatsApp to tell me that a mutual friend of our called her to tell her he heard she resigned and so he wanted to ask why. She didn’t send me the voice note to accuse me. But as soon as she sent me that voice not I started to wonder how this person heard it. I asked if she knows who told this friend of ours that and she said she doesn’t. She said she even asked him if it was me and he said no. But she already knew I wouldn’t tell others something she told me in secrecy.
I wouldn’t say I’m one to discuss private matters of others to people but sometimes we do slip and say things aren’t supposed to say which wasn’t even it in this. One thing I learnt from our discussion was how much trust this friend had in me because even though she wanted to clear her doubts about who shared this information with our mutual friend, she knew it couldn’t be me. This is what I call trust.
Trust is the bedrock of every relationship because without trust there’s really no true relationship. In every relationship, be it romantic ones, friendships or family, both parties need to be able to have some level of trust for one another. This way, each person would feel comfortable with the other in every situation. Trust is what makes people open up to you about their problems when they need help, or advice. Someone who doesn’t trust you would talk to you always but never confide in you when they have issues. If you find yourself in such relationships, just know that something is wrong somewhere.
I’ve had friends and even other people break my trust so many times and one thing about me is, it takes so long for me to build trust in someone and so once you break the trust I have for, it’s very difficult to get it back fully. I get that people need second chances and all, I would give you that second chance, but not the second chance to betray me.
Someone being able to put their trust in you means you have a huge responsibility of making sure to not break their trust because trust is key in every relationship.
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