Hello, everyone.
I welcome you to my blog. Just a few weeks ago an account I follow on Twitter was on the hot seat because he tweeted that as a first child you do not owe your parents or siblings anything and how many first born child end up being broke all their lives because they took up responsibilities they were not supposed to take up and how they took up those responsibilities quite early. The comment section of that tweet was as if hell was let loose that day. As always, there will be those in favor and those who showed their disgust for such a tweet.
He also tweeted that helping your parents and siblings should be out of your own benevolence and not because you are mandated to or because it is expected of you, and after seeing his tweets, I could conclude that he was raised in a broken home, but seeing how many supporters he had in the comment section left me wondering what the reason for this is.
The comment section was like a battlefield; his supporters were out for whoever did not support his view (kids, especially firstborns, do not owe their parents and siblings anything), and those against his view were all out for those who supported or showed the slightest sign of support for the tweet. I read through the comment section but did not air my view. I saw different opinions, and they all left me wondering if some people were raised with love at all. I kept asking myself questions like if some people were loved at home and the type of family they had growing up.
Social media has always been a place where people have the room to drop their hot takes and their opinions on matters. That tweet proved that we all cannot be on the same page, no matter how hard we try or how truthful or pure we feel our opinions are. Even when the signs are obvious or when nature is clearly pointing us in a particular direction, there will be individuals who will want to go the opposite direction and don't care if they have people supporting them or not. Everyone has that one hill where they are willing to die and will not come down from the hill no matter what and how people try to get them to.
The truth is on my path. I grew up believing that kids owe their parents. I never knew there was the slightest possibility that a kid would grow up and believe they don't owe their parents and even try to get people on their side and to push the notion that kids don't owe their parents, even going as far as saying they don't owe their siblings as well.
For me, one hill I am willing to die on is that kids owe their parents and their siblings. You owe them, especially your parents, and what you owe them is something you cannot repay, as all you can do is do your best. The only time I can side with a person that claims they don't owe their parents is in cases where the parent abandoned them and they had to fend for themselves, but as long as your parents are or were present in your life until you were able to find your feet, you owe them.
What do you think? Do you think you don't owe your parents and siblings too?