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Good day, people of Hive! Welcome to my blog. Today's topic is from Scifimultiverse, which says:
Social Science – The drastic social change that comes with success. So let's dive in.
Honestly, life has a way of changing people, and one of the biggest things that changes people is success. We often hear people saying The true colours of a person show when they are rich, which is true. When someone who used to struggle finally gets money or even a job that pays a lot, their attitude changes and their true colour comes out. That’s why people always say we humans use animal skin to cover our character so that others won’t know or see our true behaviour. Although not everyone changes, some people remain the same, but many others become distant by separating themselves from those who were there for them.
For example, someone who doesn’t have money is usually humble. To the extent that if you call them, they will pick up your call immediately. But when they see money or attain success, they start feeling on top of the world. The people they once valued, they begin to ignore. The calls they used to answer right away, they no longer pick up immediately, or sometimes they won’t answer at all.
And the funniest part is that if you tell such people that it’s because they don’t have money that's why they are this humble, and that once they see money their behaviour will change, they will deny it and say it’s a lie. Some will even swear that they will never change or allow money to control/change them.
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That’s why in this life, we cannot trust anyone because we don’t really know who is who.
If you call such people, the most common excuse they will give is, "I’m so sorry, I was very busy". Sometimes that may be true because success comes with new responsibilities. But there are also moments when those excuses are just a polite way of keeping distance. That’s when you start wondering , and start asking yourself, "Is this the same person I know?" because their behaviour and attitude have totally changed.
There are some people, during their tough times, we stood by them, maybe even gave them money to help them when they had nothing. But once they become successful, they don’t even bother to remember those favours again. On the other hand, there are still good people who, when they finally become successful, will never forget those who stood by them, because they know those favours played a role in who they are today.
The truth is, we humans often forget those who were with us when we were nothing, just because we’ve become successful. Immediately after we achieve success, we start ignoring those people and start following people of the same level as us.
It reminds me during my secondary school days. I travelled to Ibadan to lived with my uncle, and I also schooled in the same school where he was teaching before he retired. On the day I resumed, it was me and one of my dad’s colleague’s daughter who resumed at the same time, and we both started SS2 together. I was in the Arts department while she was in Commercial, but we became best of friends with three other girls—two from my department and one from Commercial.
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Before she resumed at that school, she already knew one of our friends in my department because they lived close to each other. Before we got promoted to SS3, she had already written JAMB and even helped our SS3 seniors to write WAEC without us knowing. Only the girl who lived close to her knew. Later, when we got to SS3, we stopped seeing her around. Then I asked Esther (the one who lived near her), and that was how she told us she had gained admission. I was shocked and sad—shocked because I didn’t expect it, and sad because she didn’t trust me enough to tell me.
Later I called her to congratulate her, and she answered. But afterwards, I noticed she stopped picking my calls and even ignored my WhatsApp messages. That’s when I realised she was purposely avoiding me because she was now in the university and didn’t want to have anything to do with us anymore. That showed me that her true colour was hidden all along when we were still together.
In conclusion, success will always bring changes, but the way we handle it matters. Some people allow success to destroy there 15–20 years of friendship. The real value of success is not about the money we have or the position we hold, but how we remain true to ourselves and the people who matter to us.
This is my entry for the Scifi-Multiverse Week 31 Prompt.
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