Every single person who has walked on this earth has done so with burning desires in their hearts. For some, it led them to achieving great things, and for others, it led them to total damnation. For those of us who are still living, it is clear that we are moving through life with our own desires for money, education, love, friendship, peace, and a lot more. However, we must understand that at the core of everything, we are humans capable of demonstrating obsessive behaviours in pursuit of the things we truly crave for.
We may think we are too disciplined or too moral to fall prey to our obsessive desires, but when push comes to shove, we begin to realize how flawed and submissive we can be in the presence of it all.
I have experienced this in my own life. Few years ago, I met a handful of people who genuinely liked me and would do anything to remain in my life, but over time, I noticed similar patterns of obsessive behavior from them. They had this uncontrollable need to see me often, talk to me anytime they wished, and have me around 24/7, if they could.
While this kind of desire was appealing to many other people, it was abnormal to me. I could tell it was unhealthy and I always planned my exit from the moment I recognized it for what it was.
I believe that wanting to share your life with someone is not wrong, but it becomes dangerous when restraint cannot be exercised when it comes to them. I think the most interesting thing about those experiences was realizing how such people are usually unaware of how obsessive they are until you point it out to them. It feels like they're walking on rocks but feeling only sand on their feet.
I have also experienced both sides of my desires. For the positive part, it did help me pursue my goals and served as a reminder that everything I want is never out of my reach. I remember how focused I was in acquiring digital skills in 2022 and 2023. I did everything I could to remain diligent in my learning and I was able to achieve that goal because I held on to my burning desire for growth.
I have also experienced the negative side of my desires when I badly wanted to keep something that no longer served me. At the time, I thought I could not function without it and my inability to tame that desire led me into making poor decisions that affected my mental health at a latter time. Thankfully, I learned from that experience and I was able to move on without losing myself completely.
These days, I do my best to manage my desires more carefully, ensuring that it never get to the point where they become a burden to me or anyone else. I often find time to sit with my thoughts and figure out whether or not my desires are aligned with my true interest and future plans. When they're not, I'm able to adjust as quickly as possible.
In conclusion, if a desire takes away your peace, the light in your eyes, diminishes your self worth, or pushes you to act out of character, it is not healthy and you need to release it before it causes greater harm to your life. But if a desire inspires or motivates you towards achieving your goals, becoming more intentional with self, and ultimately leaves you satisfied, then it is a healthy one that is worth holding on to.
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