I uploaded these 2 mirror selfies to a FB album "2025—Searching for OOTD as a Mama of 2" with the following captions:
Braving myself in 2025 to wear something sexy. XD The black skirt is from Kiabi size S. The grey sleeveless top has been worn many times in different countries while traveling since 2014. The brown batwing sleeve cardigan is from Shein size S. I used to be XS pre-mama era. Mama era is now S or M.
TBH, I miss wearing shorts back in the PH but not into mini skirts. I must say I used to have nice legs back in the day. Hahaha!
October 2024, I was 58 kg
I shared on Snaps about my fitness and weight loss journey: @itravelrox/re-peaksnaps-snb0sr
Regaining my Self-Confidence is...
Like also the title above is taking control of my happiness and personal choices. I think this is already a self-explanation. But I must admit that as a stay-at-home mama, I need to have my own money to choose and buy things I want. I must prioritize my own comfort and happiness from head to toe, no matter what. The clothes that I wear must reflect my personality like what I used to be.
I realized that I am missing my Cinderella Moment
I had some personal issues several days ago and realized that to never ever wear a pair of shoes again that are not my fit or not in the correct size no matter how expensive my dress is. Again, I should have prioritized COMFORT and PRACTICALITY. I should buy a good pair of shoes and it's okay not to wear an expensive dress.
Back in the Philippines, I loved to shop for a pair of sandals or shoes. I remember that Cinderella moment when I put my feet in the shoes. I was happy to stride a walk like I was a supermodel. For feminine sandals, at least have a budget above $10. For the walking shoes, I love Skechers shoes which I bought many pairs at a discount.
For the clothes or dress, I don't need to spend $50 for one dress. I prefer to have many clothes or dresses to choose from with a budget of $50.
Next time, I should insist on what makes me happy and comfortable.
Focus on Self-Love
I had a different subtitle earlier that would let me think of sad and negative thoughts that I felt in the past few days. I don't want to talk about what made me upset. From now on, focus on self-love. The only person who will make me happy is myself.
Fortunately, my negative rants were written in my notebook using my mother tongue. It felt good to write my feelings of disappointment in there.
I need to fill my cup first before serving others. I had this exhausted feeling from the past years since I became a mother. It's not the fault of my kids but seriously, I need to give time to myself.
Sharing this link to re-visit and re-read: Filling Your Cup: The Importance of Self-Care
And another link: Filling My Cup
Our society teaches us that taking care of ourselves first is selfish and a bad thing. I think that’s a bunch of BS.
On an airplane, we’re instructed to put on our own oxygen masks first, before helping a child do the same. If you think that’s a crazy idea, realize that you’re not much help to anyone if you’ve passed out due to lack of oxygen because you tried to help everyone else first.
Apply this to your everyday life.
Taking care of yourself = keeping your cup full. If you don’t do things to keep your cup full, you have nothing left to give or share with others.