He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD. Proverbs 18:22 NKJV.
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Over the years, a lot of people have either chosen to fain ignorance about the subject matter connected to marriage, while others have deliberately chosen to shy away from being called a married person and those taking responsibility. Some people who are married still about prophesying to those that care to hear that they are not married and using that to capture innocent but foolish victims.
I do set down and think, why do these married men deny their marital status, some far to the extent of removing their wedding ring which is a symbol of the love they prophesied to each other. While others openly go to the court to file in for divource, these and many more things no doubt make the people to be afraid of getting into marriage because they are afraid of the fate that may befall them, as such they chose celibacy against their emotions which keeps burning.
As a relationship and motivational speaker, I do often hear some of the and young men and ladies that I interview come by to say that they are not ready for marriage and they are not ready to tolerate the nonsense of that sister or brother. The lady I was akin to told me the other day that except a man that comes his way is a medical doctor, she can never marry anything, she would rather remain single. And the brother said that he needs to build a house, buy a car and pursue his education up to Ph.d level, so that the woman that he would marry may respect him seeing his achievement. I couldn't help but laughed, thereby surprising him who thought me to be a very serious person.
When we talk marriage, we always say that it is an institution ordained by God since the creation of man as captured in the Holy Bible in the Book of the beginning or beginnings (Gen. 2:18). Thus, the divine order since creation is that man should not be alone and that no one should lack his/her mate. Yet some have deliberately chosen to be alone while, others ignorantly cause themselves to remain lonely due to the their lifestyle which wards off anyone that may have been interested in coming close to them.
Please not that all those things which my clients brought up as an excuse for delay in marrying are very irrelevant yet it is one of the many things that causes delay in marriage and brings strive to the married.
So what then is marital delay?
Marital delay simply put, is a a situation whereby someone who is 'due' or 'ready' to marry is not yet married as a result of circumstances, sometimes, beyond his/her control. It should be noted, however, that anyone who chooses not to marry for 'genuine' reasons may not be in error. Marital delay is today a global phenomenon that gives parents, pastors, relatives, church members, marriage counselors and the society at large serious concerns. Hence, as believers, it is important to learn how to manage such a situation.
In Genesis 29:15-21, the Bible records the fate that befell Jacob who made efforts to break the jinx of loneliness.
"And Jacob loved Rachel; so he said, "I will serve you seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter." And Laban said, it is better that I give her to you than that I should give her to another man. abide with me." Laban conceded to the proposal of Jacob to serve him for seven years. Gen. 29:18-19
But I still keep wondering why Jacob could have chosen to enter into such bargain just for a wife. Hmmmmmmm, I would like to get the answers someday when we get there to heaven.
Jacob played his own part of the bargain and fulfilled all the needful on his part. However, soon after the expiration of the service year, the agreement was breached the service year was extended Gen. 29:27.
Our reference text says that he that finds a wife has found a good thing, so dearly beloved, please stop shying away from taking responsibility by claiming that you have not yet met the person that would be your spouse. Get to meet someone today, who knows, the be that person whom you think that are not nice, but try them, you may discover the good thing in them with you have long been looking and waiting for.
Stop this delay, take a bull step and someone today
Prayer
Lord I pray for everyone reading this post, I break every yoke of delay of marriage in their lives in Jesus name,amen.
Lord, to every home that there is discord between the wife and husband, mother and child, daughter and father, I pray may you heal their marriage and home in Jesus name.
Lord, for every man who is under the spell of an adulterous woman who has stolen his heart from the wife of his youth, Lord I pray the spell to be broken in Jesus name, amen.
Lord, I declare your peace that passes all our understanding unto every home that is going through any form of domestic violence and abuse in Jesus name, amen.
Thank you for stopping by, do have a productive weekend, God bless you.