There is one important lesson I learned in this online era, trends are not gospel. Fake lifestyles are just that fake. And sometimes, the real trend you should be following is the one that makes you laugh at how ridiculous it is to try and keep up with everyone else.
You know what is wild about all this is the fact that every time I scroll through my feed, I feel like I’m the one scroll away from realizing that I’ve missed a secret memo about how to live a perfect life. It’s like the internet is this giant, curated museum of “lifestyles” that are so perfect, they might as well be sponsored by the idea of existential dread.
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I remembered when I used to log on to Facebook just to see some of my friends’ photos from vacation. Now, it’s a never-ending parade of people doing things you didn’t even know you should be doing. They are not just on vacation, they are “living their best life,” complete with artisanal coffee, sunset selfies, and that impossible-to-achieve vibe that says, "I’m having fun, but I’m also sophisticated and self-aware about it."
This makes me wonder how people have time to live these perfect lives. The rest of us are just here, living like regular humans, eating chips while scrolling through TikTok to see what’s trending in the world of “life goals.” Meanwhile, the world of online life has become a carefully constructed stage set where everyone looks like they just walked out of a magazine ad for wellness retreats they never actually go to, thanks to AI for the amazing job well done.
You know that “perfect morning routine” video that starts at 5 a.m. First, there’s a shot of their perfectly unwrinkled bedsheets as they emerge like some sort of spiritual oracle, ready to meditate in a zen corner of their apartment, which, by the way, has zero dust, zero clutter, and absolutely zero reality.
Then, of course, there is a cup of coffee Or maybe green juice, sometimes it is a cabbage smoothie with spirulina dust sprinkled over the top, because apparently, we need ancient superfoods to just… get through the day. They sip it slowly, savoring every drop like they’re about to make an announcement that will change the world. Meanwhile, I’m over here trying to figure out whether I can finish my tea before it gets cold while scrambling to find my phone that I’ve already lost twice before breakfast.
But here is the most maddening part, I use to feel that somehow, maybe I’m the one who’s “doing it wrong.” Maybe it is me watching the endless TikToks of people cooking up three-course, gluten-free, grain-free, soy-free meals at 6 a.m. when I can barely make it through the day without eating a bag of chips. Maybe it’s the Instagram stories showing people "manifesting" their dreams while standing in front of a mirror and talking about how they’ve “leveled up” after doing 100 minutes of Pilates.
What I really want to know is when did we decide that waking up, getting dressed, and surviving the day wasn’t enough? When did it become a requirement to have a vision board filled with vague Pinterest quotes and an influencer-worthy skincare routine that looks like it requires a medical degree to understand, I really don't understand this and it's really tiring.
Even though, I’m all for people enjoying their smoothies and doing yoga in a room that never has a sock on the floor. But there’s a line between self-care and full-on self-promotion. When your daily routine starts to look like a commercial for a lifestyle brand you didn’t even know you were supposed to want, it’s time to take a step back. No, I’m not about to turn my entire living room into a “boho chic” yoga sanctuary where every cornered in soft lighting and incense just because I want to follow someone else's routine. I can barely keep a plant alive, let alone a perfect Instagram feed.
The fact is that this stuff is fake. It’s not about trying to ruin anyone’s good vibes, but just recognizing that the picture-perfect lives online are, more often than not, a carefully edited version of reality. They are not a reflection of how most of us live where sometimes “self-care” means just having the time to take a shower without feeling like we’re late for something.
I almost tried to keep up with it, I almost downloaded that “perfect planner” app, until I realised that they are all nonsense, signing up for yoga classes that I’d forget about by the second week. But then I remembered something: the people living these curated lives are also just humans, trying to get through their own version of a chaotic, messy world. And that’s okay. In fact, it’s more than okay because we all find happiness in different ways.
So, when next i see someone posting about their "sunrise yoga at the beach" or “minimalist closet goals," I’ll remind myself that that’s their thing, and I’ve got my own thing. I’m pretty happy with my own chaos and I don't want to add to it Honestly, it sounds a lot more real and a lot less exhausting.
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