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This post is a response to the topic posed by the #qccommunity and I appreciate the MOD for bringing up such a deep and reflective topic. The topic states…..
Would you get a divorce? What would be your reason for getting a divorce? Would you get married again? Why? How many times would you get married?
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Divorce is a legal dissolution of marriage. This is when two legally individuals decide due to certain reasons to go their separate ways and be done with their marriage.
Over the years,.I have come to know quite a few of the reasons why many couples divorce. Some divorce due to infidelity, cheating and dishonesty, some divorce due to toxicity and abuse in the marriage, while others divorce simply because they fell out of love for their partner.
Whichever reason it is, divorce is not a happy process. In countries like the Philippines and Vatican city, divorce is against their laws hence it is prohibited.
Divorce can be very strenuous especially with a manipulative partner or an abusive partner who refuses to release control over the victim.
Personally, I can get a divorce but only on two conditions. The first being infidelity and the second is abuse. These two are my deal breakers and non-negotiables in marriage.
My reason for saying this is because infidelity is akin to murder. The partner who was cheated on dies emotionally, mentally and psychologically. They begin to question their existence for living and even put the blame on themselves for being incapable of keeping their wandering partner. This shouldn't be because marriage took two consenting adults agreeing to shoulder the responsibilities that come with it.
Secondly, I don't believe in sharing my partner with someone else. So if my partner decides to cheat on me with someone else, this shows what little respect he has for me and for our relationship.
When it comes to abuse (of any kind), it leaves the partner in a mess. Here in my country, I have seen a lot of physically abused women. One celebrity singer too died due to physical abuse at the hands of her husband. Abuse is bad and should be vehemently shunned in society.
We were all created equal in the eyes of God and in a marriage, the two becomes one. So nothing gives one partner the right to control the other partner especially in a condescending manner (abuse).
If I get divorced, will I remarry?
No one gets married with divorce in mind. It is till death do us part right but if circumstances prove otherwise, rhen i can remarry but no more than one time.
There are also many factors to consider here too. I would consider my kids, my age, and the sincerity of the one who is seeking my hand in marriage.
If I had children in my first marriage, then I think I would not remarry. I would rather devote all my time to raising them right so that they can become better human beings in future.
One mindful thing that would guide my choices would be my peace of mind. Nothing is worth my peace and sanity. I will fight against anything that seeks to fracture my mental health and my peace, even if it means not being married.
Marriage is not a major key to success neither is it all that.
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