Failure is inevitable. We can not live without failure as we are humans,but the only thing that matters is what we do after we fail. Let's use human babies for example. Babies are one of the most determined creatures I've seen. They fail so many times: when they try to walk, but they keep trying anyway till they can walk.
What Does Failure Mean To Me:
Whenever I get the chance, I tell people that "failures are but stepping stones" . Failure is a pathway to success. Whenever I fail, it's no doubt that I feel very bad. The people around me know whenever I've failed at something because I would probably look so gloomy.
My failures become more of a motivation. When I fail, there is this driving force that just wants me to succeed because I don't look good whenever I wear my failure dress, hypothetically.
What Do You Do When You Fail:
Whenever I fail at something, I immediately start thinking of other possible ways to achieve success. I'm not the type to wail about something for an extended period of time.
- First thing I do is to make peace with my failure. If I don't make peace with it, then I can't move on.
- After making peace with my failure, I look back to analyse everything and ask myself critical questions. Where did I go wrong? What did I do?
- After my analysis, I move on to strategize my next plan. This is where I do all the work. I ask successful people for advice, I do research (something I love doing), and then I draft out plans. Yes, plans. Not just one. At this point, I don't want to take my chances anymore, so I go for plan A and plan B.
What Advice Would You Give To Someone Who Has Failed?
A person that just failed wouldn't exactly be in a happy place. When giving advice, I try to be as straightforward as possible. I wouldn't want to beat around the bush.
- First, I would tell the person that there is no success without failure.. People have failed before you and people will still fail after you. Most of the great historic people failed before they got it right.
- Second, I would tell the person that there are two things involved when someone fails; one, sit around sulking and wailing without doing anything or two, take responsibility for your failure and move on. Which would you choose?
- Third, I would let the person know that I'm always willing to help whenever I can.
Failure can be very challenging and most times, it's hard for people to heal emotionally. It is advisable to take things one step at a time. Remember,what works for one person wouldn't necessarily work for you.
With love, wongi ✨