Good morning friends and welcome to a brand new week. Second Monday of this year.
A lot of things has happened and a lot of stories has been told about betrayal of trust. People are now afraid of whom they will share their personal problems with. It is said that a problem shared is half solved but the question is with who.
Do you still trust your Boss, your colleagues, your husband, your wife, your children or relatives? Many will say no while many will say small. From look of things, trust is very far from people but the truth is that, we still have so many friends who can be trusted. First you need to be trusted. People can trust you if you are trust worthy and there are people who are trust worthy too. But let's examine mistake many do that leads to distrust.
Do not share your problem with strangers.
Many fall victim of sharing their problems with strangers they met at a restaurant because he or she appear good or did some kindness to them. They fail to take to heart that many people live double life only to get close to you or get something from you. Now after telling him everything about you and He went out to share it with people or betray you. The next thing is, people are so wicked, see someone i trusted. This can lead to distrust, you may not like to go close to another person for fear He will disappoint you.
Lesson
Before you start telling people deeper things about your life, try to know them very well. Listen when that person is talking to know if he is sincere or not. Has he shared or tell you anything about himself. Is he really after knowing everything about you while his own remain secret. How does he manage problem, how does he talk about people before you?
Remember, if he is the type that tell you bad about people always, he will not say good about you. If he is not a peaceful person, He will not advice you to be peaceful with others. Find out whom the person really is before building friendship that will lead to discussing deeper things about yourself with him. With this you can build trust on him or not.
How to handle distrust.
When you heard that your friend has betrayed you. How do you feel? Very hurt right, it is so painful each time such happen. Some will even fight and so many problem will follow. Now stop and think, have you said something that hurt another person?
Also ask, did He say it to favor me, maybe trying to get advice from the other person to help me. Was it intentional or a mistake? Try to find out what led to what he did and see if you can settle it amicably. Many who can not be trusted has been help to be trusted because their friends handle the matter in more matured way. Try your best to give them another chance to be trusted.
In summary, we should not be quick to share our problems with strangers. People we don't really know whom they are inside. Trust should be the first thing to build before sharing our problems. When betrayal occur, do your best to settle the matter in a peaceful way and give chance for trust. Try to be trustworthy so that trusted and honest people will locate.