Loneliness is something that is difficult to avoid.
Most of us have known times when we felt lonesome. For some, that feeling is so frequent and fervent they can say with the songwriter, “I’m so lonesome I could cry.”
Studies suggest that loneliness can be a serious threat to our well-being and physical health. Learning how to deal with loneliness when it strikes can be an important skill for a healthy, abundant life.
To help in that process, here are seven different types of loneliness.
1. ‘New Kid’ Loneliness
Like being the new kid at school, there are times in your life when you are in a completely new situation. Whether it’s a new job, a new city, or a new school, you very well may feel lonely in the beginning.
2. “Not Fitting in” Loneliness
This is the loneliness that strikes when you feel different from the people around you. You may be an introvert on a team of extroverts. Maybe your values aren’t shared with the people around you. You feel separate and different.
3. “Lack of Romance” Loneliness
When you don’t have a partner, it can seem as if everyone else in the entire world has a significant other. Or maybe you do have a partner, but you feel disconnected. That’s lonely.
4. “Missing a Pet” Loneliness
There’s no company like that of your pet. Maybe you’re missing your dog, cat, or gerbil. Pets can provide a special connection, and when it’s not there, you really miss it.
5. “Too Busy for Me” Loneliness
There are times in your life when it feels as if you’re not a priority for anyone. People get busy with their own lives, and you can feel stranded and alone.
6. “Toxic Friends” Loneliness
Worse than busy friends are toxic ‘friends’ who get their energy from belittling you or making you feel inadequate. If you don’t feel supported by your friends, or you feel you can't really trust them, it’s time to look for new friends.
7. “Lack of Company” Loneliness
Sometimes loneliness comes simply from not having anyone to hang out with. Someone just to share space and be with. A lack of a faithful, constant presence can make you feel deeply lonely.
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Once you've identified what type of loneliness you’re feeling right now, you can take steps to address it. For example, if you miss having an animal in your life, consider adopting a pet or volunteering at the local animal rescue center.
Make time in your life for meaningful relationships -- ones that feed your soul. Look for people who hold similar values or interests. Invest in and nurture those friends. They will show up that next time you find yourself in “lonely town.”
NOTE:
If, after taking some action, your loneliness doesn’t seem to improve, or if it is persistent and leaves you feeling hopeless, seek the help of a qualified therapist.
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