Almost every time I get behind the steering wheel and on the road, I realize how the road behavior of others affect me and I'm not proud of it. Because I'm aware of it, I am now actively working on how I react to it and although I'm not totally Zen, I do see a difference.
Anyone who really, and I mean really knows me, knows that I'm not the most Zen person (and that's ok 😅) in the world, but because I'm aware of it I know how to "handle" it. If you're anything like me or even if you have the occasional outburst of anger - heck everyone gets angry at some point - the important thing is to know what triggers that anger. With me for example, when on the road, I get triggered by injustice and selfish behavior.
Let me elaborate: I'm on a very narrow street on which it's impossible for two cars to drive past each other, so there are open spaces built at certain points, so that one car can wait on the side and the other can pass by and when there are no oncoming cars, the one who waited could go ahead.
What goes awry is that some drivers are deliberately choosing to drive ahead and "hope" that you will dodge and wait for them, even though they were closer to those "check" points; meaning they didn't stop at those points. Yesterday, I was very calm and had no haste, so I stopped at every point and there was a driver behind me, who wanted to pass me by. Luckily he/she saw oncoming cars and chose not to go ahead, but I was scolding him/her in my head.
And now every time that I realize I'm scolding people (in my head) on the road, I tell myself to calm down and that it's not worth boiling my blood over. Nothing is actually, but hey it's a journey right? 😅 Another thing that I do is put on calming music or music in general to get my head away from negative feelings and into a enjoyable state of mind. So now I'm more calm and I try not to let other people's road behavior affect my day or my mood and it gets better each time.
