This movie is interesting because it teaches a lot of lessons. It's title Mercy. It is a Nigerian movie produced by Chinneylove. It starts with the husband named Taibo begging his wife Mena to forgive him, but the wife refused to listen, saying that's not the first time he was doing that.
They get ready for church and went to church, where I know Taibo is a pastor and his wife Mena is a pastor's wife. The choir sings, and Taibo goes to the altar to preach about forgiveness. All the church members shout "Well done, Pastor," but Mena's facial expression says otherwise. She seems to be saying, "Say what you want to say and leave the altar." They go home holding hands, pretending all is well, but at home, they live like strangers. They only talk and smile at each other when people are around or when they have visitors.
As the story unfolds, I get to know that their disagreement is as a result of Taibo's behavior during intimate moments. He has sadistic tendencies, deriving sexual pleasure from inflicting pain on Mena. Like he always hurt her doing sex, inflicting pain on her . Those kind of person are called sadism , they derive sexual pleasure from inflicting pain on some else. But Taibo is not ready to seek help; he always promises to change but does it again, hurting Mena. He refuses to go to a therapist or counselor because of his reputation as a pastor, believing he can change himself through prayer.
Mena finally forgives him, and they have sex again, but he does it again. That's when Mena moves out of the house. People begin to ask about Mena in church, and Taibo starts lying, saying she's sick. Mena reports him to the elder of the church, and Taibo feels pain because he thinks Mena has disgraced him. The elder only speaks to him to seek a solution and suspends him for a little while, but Taibo never seek help.
While Mena is away, a lady gets the opportunity to seduce him, and he falls for it. The lady records a video, and one of his friends releases it to the internet, destroying Taibo's reputation. He's heartbroken, stays at home alone, and becomes depressed.
After much persuasion from Mena's mentor, she finally goes home and meets her husband in a terrible state, with the house dirty. She's sad, but she carries him up and tells him she's forgiven him. She encourages him that they will rise again and overcome. They start seeking help, going to a therapist, where Taibo narrates how he was continually abused by his mother's sister as a child when their mother was away.
If you watched the movie, you'd understand it better, but there are a lot of lessons to learn from it.
If you need help, speak up. Some people refuse to speak up because of what others will say, and they're dying silently. Speak to a friend, counselor, or therapist if necessary.
Pastors too have their flaws; not all of them are perfect. Don't think that because you're dating a pastor, they'll be 100% good. Ask questions during courtship, ask questions about sexual life, ask about anything doing courtship.
Prayer is good , but there are things prayer only will not do , if we don't act. Pray and also act and seek help when necessary.
Lastly, I learned that forgiveness is golden; it may be hard, but it's the best thing. If Mena hadn't forgiven Taibo, I don't know what would have happened to him. Also, two is better than one; when she finally forgave him, and they started seeking help, the healing became faster.
All pictures is screenshot from the movie.