The way we speak tells a lot about our personality and our family background. It is always important to speak properly. Speaking style, including word choice, tone, and even the speed and volume of speech, can reveal aspects of a person's personality. For example, the use of more abstract language can indicate introversion, while frequent use of positive words might suggest an extroverted personality. Additionally, specific word choices related to emotions or senses can offer insights into a person's emotional state or openness. This quality is well explained in the ancient Sanskrit in following words :
केयूरा न विभूषयन्ति पुरुषं हारा न चन्द्रोज्ज्वला
न स्नानं न विलेपनं न कुसुमं नाSलंकृता मूर्धजा
वाण्येका समलंकरोति पुरुषं या संस्कृता धार्यते
क्षीयन्ते खलु भूषणानि सततं वाग्भूषणं भूषणं
Keyuraa na vibhushyanti purusham haraa na chandrojjwalaa
Na snaanam na vilepanam na kusumam naalankrataa moordhajaa
vaanyekaa samalamkaroti purusham ya sanskritaa dharyate
ksheeyante khalu bhushanaani satatam vaagbhushnam bhushanam
Keyura = an ornament worn over the arm Moordhaja = hairs of the head
Vilepanam = paste applied over the body (cosmetics)
Vaani = way of speaking
Bhushan = ornament
ksheeyante = become insignificant
Hara = necklace
Dharyate = wears or possesses
i.e. Even if a person beautifies himself with ornaments and a necklace shining like full Moon, bathes and applies cosmetics, grooms his hair with scented oil and flowers, all these accessories do not make him a cultured person, if his diction (way of speaking) is not proper and refined and he is treated as a dirty person . On the other hand if a person is soft spoken and has command over his speech, even if he is not adorned with ornaments etc, he is always treated as a cultured person. So proper diction and command over language is the real ornament (bhushan) of a person.
While speaking style is not the only determinant of personality, it offers valuable insights into an individual's character, emotional state, and communication preferences. Understanding these nuances can help us better interpret and interact with others.
