Parents have one of the most important roles in life and that is to educate our children in the first years of life and obviously it is not easy to do it perfectly because as humans we fail and sometimes we do not take correct behaviors to deal with them.
Screaming damages the self-esteem of your children, so we must keep in mind that this form creates violence and rebellion in them, because educating to balance it in child development does not merit screaming and really almost all parents do not hold back our emotions and have shouted at our children from time to time and others do it regularly as a lifestyle. However, we must reflect on this attitude since it greatly damages the self-esteem of our children.
In this regard I quote the following investigation
The University of Pittsburgh and the University of Michigan have collaborated on a joint study, published by the journal Child Development, in which they monitored the behavior of almost a thousand families made up of fathers, mothers and children between 13 and 14 years old. From him it is extracted that 45% of the mothers and 42% of the fathers admitted to having shouted and in some case insulted their children. The researchers checked the effects of this verbal violence on the children and found that they had developed various behavioral problems in the following year compared to the children who had not received screaming. Problems ranged from arguments with peers, difficulties in school performance, lies to parents, quarrels at school, to shoplifting and symptoms of sudden sadness and depression.
From these statements it is deduced that screaming develops serious problems in our children which deserve to be cared for because they affect behavior and develop various problems in school and in their environment, taking as a first priority to change the attitude of educating parents, understanding that it is not This situation is normal and it greatly damages the cognitive process of the child, leading them to damage their self-esteem, which can be very dangerous to develop as a social and integral being
These attitudes occur in children because we must know that when children are "educated" with screaming, the brain receives stimuli from the hippocampus, defined biologically as:
a structure of the brain deeply embedded in the temporal lobe of each cerebral cortex. It is an important part of the limbic system, of a cortical region that regulates stimulation, emotion, learning, and memory.
In this order of ideas it is deduced that the child, when receiving constant screams, the hippocampus who is in charge of producing all the emotions we feel suffers an alteration and obviously his memory that when attacked by the blood flow drastically affects his emotional balance and his cognitive process which prevents and hinders the teaching-learning process and situations in your environment such as: companionship interpersonal relationships show your emotions naturally insecurity rejection among others
it is worth saying in this case that if it is necessary as parents to seek alternative help we must do it for the good of our children we must take care of all their being development and social life because self-esteem is a problem of extreme care in people as a child with problems of Esteem would bring various problems together with all his surroundings and most importantly it would harm his whole life.
We want confident, talented, creative, thoughtful, animated children with balance to face life and the power is in our hands with us parents!
Remember screaming is not necessary to educate because it damages the self-esteem of our children
(Bibliography consulted: ABC Family newsletter)
