There is a saying, "A person who comes and goes alone is called unique. A person who is unique is called the most precious." Being alone is not an incompatibility, but a way of life, and an inevitable state of life. In the end, we will all understand that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others. Many times, some roads can only be walked by you alone; some things can only be done by you alone.
Independence is a person's greatest maturity.
What others give you can be taken back at any time, but what is yours is always there. Anything, if you only want to rely on others, and you are not willing to grow up independently, you will only get nothing in the end. When you are financially and spiritually independent, and you can control your own destiny, you will have the most confidence, the most steadfastness, and the most peace of mind.
During the Republic of China, Su Qing, a female writer who was as famous as Zhang Ailing, once lost herself in the situation of relying on others, causing a tragedy. She was originally from a scholarly family, but dropped out of school due to marriage and returned to her family completely. After marriage, in order to give birth to a son to her husband's family, she did not hesitate to damage her own body and gave birth to four children in a row. In the face of her husband Li Qin's extramarital affairs, she also compromised again and again. Later, when Su Qing reached out and asked her husband for living expenses, Li Qin said to her, "I am a human being, and you are also human. You asked me for money?" and gave her a slap in the face. This slap completely woke her up, and she resolutely chose to divorce, re-write and start a business, seeking economic and spiritual independence, and since then she has become famous. Wang Xiaobo said: "All human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence."
Instead of expecting others, it is better to strengthen yourself.
When you are financially independent, you will have enough confidence to face the ups and downs of life and live as your own. When you are spiritually independent, your heart will become strong, and you will step on the ups and downs of life into the road of Yangguan. When the wind comes, it is better to follow the wind. You have to live as your own ferryman, relying on your own strength to fly to a higher sky.
Being alone is the best practice for a person.
There is a saying in the "Qing Jing Jing": "If a person can be always quiet, the heaven and the earth will all return." It means that if you can be alone, the power of heaven and earth will be injected into your life. The truly powerful people mostly turn inward when they encounter problems, focus on being alone, and enrich their spiritual world. Neither follow the crowd, nor pretentious, but to put aside all external interference of self-talk, in the turbulent real life, return to the true self.
This is a sign of a person's inner strength and the best state of life. Zhang Tingji, an epigrapher in the Qing Dynasty, has a couplet, which reads: Zhu Huiweng sat in silence for half a day, while Ouyang Zi Fang read at night. Zhu Huiweng refers to Zhu Xi, a master of Confucianism. When he has nothing to do, he likes to sit quietly for half a day. In his alone time, he accepts his soul and sees his own clarity and brightness. Ouyangzi refers to Ouyang Xiu, one of the Eight Great Masters of the Tang and Song Dynasties. He prefers to read books in the dead of night, to understand the true meaning of the world in the book, to be clear in the quiet center, to open his mind and to find his truest self.
The more extraordinary a person is, the better the ability to be alone. They can endure loneliness, endure loneliness, silently accumulate strength where others can't see, and then shine.
Zhuangzi also said: "Only has a relationship with the spirit of heaven and earth." Being alone is the relief of the spirit, the return of the soul, and the sublimation of the soul. Only when a person is alone can he clear the fog, see the truth of life, find his inner strength, and meet a better self.
Walking alone is the highest self-discipline of a person.
Ji Xianlin, a master of Chinese studies, said: "On the road of life, everyone is a lonely traveler." To walk alone is not to be neglected and alienated, but not to be understood by others. The more a person understands and pursues, the more he knows that sometimes you can only face the joys and sorrows of life alone. Calm down, calm down, and walk alone on the right track is the deepest self-discipline of a person. At the age of 23, the famous contemporary writer Mu Xin was hired as a teacher by Hangzhou No. 1 High School. He was well paid and loved by students. But it didn't take long before Mu Xin resigned and went to Moganshan to live in seclusion - he wanted to become a real artist. He left the bustling city behind and read, wrote and painted in the desolate Mogan Mountains, rising from sunrise to sunset and walking alone on the road of pursuing art. He lived himself as a team, so when he came down the mountain six years later, he had countless works that directly touched the heart and countless ink landscape paintings.
Beasts always walk alone, and cattle and sheep are in groups. Walking alone, like a mirror, can reflect a person's pattern. A mediocre person walks alone, only to become more restless; But strong people walk alone, but they can precipitate themselves and live out their true self.
You know, compared to the liveliness and glitz of the outside world, what truly achieves a person is the time when he lives in isolation and concentrates on his career. Just click and watch, only by walking alone can you let go of trivialities, satisfy your inner needs, improve your inner and realm, and bloom your own light.