A childhood friend of mine with whom we have been together for so long happened to have a few issues with his marital life. He kept on pursuing money leaving his marital life dying. I called him and talk to him about his marital life. Meanwhile, he got to know a girl through one of his friends. After asking him, he confirmed to me that she will be his wife. This got me so excited because I am married with two children but waiting for him too. This girl truly loved him so much. There is Monday she will not come to his house.
My friend was so excited to have this girl, Mary. Mary's parents are Muslims, but she decided to be a Christian. Mary has a toaster who has been disturbing her but she told my friend about it. When my friend heard about it, he began to suspect her every move. Although, they have been dating for over five months. To every shouting, Mary must apologize even when she is right. She kept on with this act until one day when she could not hold it any longer. My friend shouted at her and she did not beg him but walked out of him. Mary!!! Are you not the one I'm calling? What has come over you? Love took over Mary and blindfolded her to the brim.
She later came to meet me to help her beg my friend after some weeks of argument. I called my friend and told him to forgive Mary. I told Mary to come along and that I will make him understand something which will make him realize his mistakes. This truly worked out and my friend came begging her. The fact remains that she has done nothing wrong.
One fateful day, Mary called my friend to talk with him. The reason for discussing.is to know what is of her in the future. She asked, " what does the future hold for us"? I'm growing older and not a child any longer. So, what is going to happen to us? My friend replied, I have told before we started this relationship that you are the only one for me and indeed "if not you then who"? I am not prepared yet and will be prepared soon. Mary replied "If not now, then when would that be"? My friend replied, "don't worry, soon and believe me when I say soon". We all kept on waiting for the time to come back the more we waited the longer the time. One day, inside, he didn't bother to wait any longer and asked him "guy!! When will you be ready for her? Do you want to wait until you have the whole world before you settle with her? It was as if I knew his mind.
It's been three years now and nothing has been said about her. She was going and in the process of waiting, my friend told me that he is going to let her go. He began to cook up a story that made him avoid her. When it got to four years, she won a scholarship to study abroad. After hearing this my friend regretted rejecting her. Mary later travelled out to the State to study nursing. After a year of travel, she got engaged and married to the same guy who had been disturbing her when she was still with my friend. My friend regretted this opportunity. He lost this opportunity as a result. of not having bearings and not being sure of what to do while time was not in their favour.
**If not you then who? This is a deceptive question that can con occur to those who are not ready or to the players. This same question can be asked by those who are ready and are not players. So, it is your choice to decide what your choice is. If not now then when? Mary asked my friend but could not give a tangible reply. He was ready but pretended until the one who loved him dearly slipped off from him.
Must you wait until everything gets spoiled before you decide on what to do? This is not the best but one has to do the needful at the right time.