How do we create a better world, when some people continue to believe, that they are above others?
Things will never change, if we are not willing to see others, as equals. I had thought, that when I became a part of the collective in my community, that this would have been a given. Because this hierarchical structure within society, really is at the root of all of our problems and what holds us all back. But it seems, that some perhaps, were just waiting to create something ‘new’, under the guise of a better way, just so they could step in and try and lead and claim all of the glory for themselves. To be ruled by the ego.
Wow, suddenly that person, sounds very like a politician
Well today things came to a head, when this one person once again stepped over the decisions of others and put themselves at the top once again. When we tried to highlight how this behavior is not beneficial or in line with our vision, they refused to acknowledge what they did and instead tried to place the blame on others.
What can you do, when some one refuses to look at themselves and instead deflects everything at others? This is a serious question, we have tried reformative circles, but they just played the victim and said how under appreciated they are. Yet everyone is appreciated equally. But of course this can be a problem for somebody who wishes to take the credit for everything that we created as a collective.
This person, has a hard time listening and instead seems to focus so much more on what their response/ reaction will be.
We are learning and growing all of the time. But part of that growth is being able to listen to constructive criticism and stand side by side with your fellow brothers and sisters. At this point I can see n way forward with this person if they are unwilling to see and hear! There have been too many opportunities for resolution but it never happened, in the end it feels like we continue to condone this behavior.
Today this person accused me of creating a divide, simply because I did not agree with him. That I was the one splitting the group, they then went on to say how they deserve more gratitude for everything they have done. I responded by saying yes I am grateful, but no more than I am for anyone else in the collective and that what has been created has been by all of us, not just one of us!
What I do know now though,is that I can no longer work with this person. These last two years so many of us have done so much inner work, because real, change always has to come from self first. But when someone refuses to do that, then what?
Nothing can change, if we keep accommodating people who continuously find ways in which drag us down. I want to move forward with everything that the collective has done, but that has been impossible when we have someone who is unwilling to actually move forward themselves.
But perhaps this is an opportunity. An opportunity to really connect with others who share the same vision and are willing to stand side by side with others and not keep demanding to have their ego stroked by others. To finally break away from this old world mentality and step forward into the new.
I really was at a loss of what to do, on how to move forward, when I began to write this post, but as the words flowed, I really began to process more and deepen my understanding of what had occurred and has been occurring. Then things became clearer for me. Such is the joys of writing. But I would also love to hear anyone else's thoughts on how they feel I should proceed. So please, do let me know what you think in the comments.