Hi hivers, esteemed ladies, it's Abeegail again. I came across this video on tiktok where a lady said she realized that growing up boys had a different experience than girls. I had never been more seen in my entire life because it's the truth. And she was talking more so on the fact that as a young age girls were being taught how to protect themselves, keep themselves safe and walk around with caution but boys just get to be free with little or no training on how to act with people, especially girls.
From a young age we are taught to cover our drinks, put key between a fingers when walking down a dark alley, listen for food steps, be alert, walk with a group because you never want to be the girl walking alone, you learn to yell "fire" instead of "help" because people will ignore a girl yelling help, wear clothes that are not to revealing, knowing our private parts are not be touched by anyone, never wear shoes you can't run in, to literally attack strangers when they try funny business so that we don't get to be victims of a crime. At a young age we get to slowly see the dangerous and the dark part of the world. We literally have to make ourselves unattractive or unnoticeable, so that we are safe and it never stops, it just goes on and on.
The crazy part is that guys are oblivious to the fact that it is unsafe for young girls and women in the streets. Someone said "just because you are a good guy doesn't mean everyone is". Just because you won't do that to a woman doesn't mean another person won't and someone else said that "most guys lack empathy and the concept of putting themselves in other people's shoes seem foreign to them." They don't realize that it is dangerous for women out there and they only realize how bad it is when they are fathers and they get to have daughters and think what it will be like for her to navigate life when they know how men think. This is quite sad and they stand up and shout "not all men" just because they would never do that, until they become overprotective fathers that know what they are gender is capable of, "not all men" but they will still choose the "bear" over the "man". So many guys are just oblivious to the fear we have to carry everyday then they ask us why we are so paranoid and why we are so cautious because we HAD to be we were GROOMED to be because if not it always ends badly for us and sometimes men don't see that we are protecting ourself from YOU.
The funny thing is how society covers the man if any violent act is carried out against women because somehow somewhere the girl asked for it because she didn't follow all the safety rules to the letter; it is like someone hitting your car and telling you that it's your fault for driving your car out in the first place. I don't see any little boy being policed for not learning how to treat a girl right or for not controlling his urges. it's ALWAYS the girls and mind you, this safety rules are not even foolproof because you can do all of these and still be a victim. There's no girl who can boldly say that she has not been S.Aed before one-way or another and yet we say "not all men". I had goosebumps when I heard someone say "parents that don't teach yeah girl child to fear men don't have daughters." This is so true and this just seem like a game of hunters and prey.
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Like I said earlier being a human is already bad enough.
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