For us ladies that want men like daddy J.O😶
Are you really ready to stand by him till he gets to the point of world recognition or you're waiting for an already made man?
There are plenty things to this relationship of a thing and one that tops the list is being there for your partner through thick or thin.
To every successful man or woman you see in the limelight today, there's a very solid support system behind the curtains.
So tell me, How much of a support system are you? Do you stick when things are normal and leave when things go south.
I love intelligent women, I love intelligent men yen yen yen. How much are you contributing to see that they get better every passing day?
It's beyond saying I wish you were like him or I wish you were like her.
If you scoff at this write-up of me talking bout you helping your partner become a better version of themselves, then it's either you need a mental restructure or you're not into the person.
Short story, one of my friend got enrolled for a course she was planning to pay for a while now, but she got was an email. Her friend already made payment for her and all she needs to do is begin.
Oga didn't need to speak plenty English. All he said was "come back with the certificates or keep my money"🤣🤣🤣 and that is a lot of money to payback.
You dey find people like John Obidi, me I dey follow find.
But I realized I don't necessarily need to wait for J.O. My partner can become more if I'm patient with him and let him grow into his full potentials. I want him to achieve every damn thing he has to and grow too.
And my partner has to be supportive too(I drink support for a living). If the support no dey, it's English he is speaking.
You cannot love a person and not want to see him/her grow.
You cannot love a person and not want to see him/her excel in the different career paths.
You cannot love your partner and you're not bothered about his/her relationship status with God.
You cannot love you partner and be less bothered about the state of his/her resources/financial status.
This list is so long.
A relationship is supposed to add to you and not subtract and you're supposed to add to the person too and not subtract. A MUTUAL PARTNERSHIP.
There's so much you can become by simply being with the right person. It makes life easier and less complicated. The peace of mind, the happiness, the certainty it comes with.
When was the last time your partner thanked you for being a blessing or helping out with something when they needed help? Oya those in a relationship answer.
Things like this should not be hidden, you should express them like the air you breathe. Show your partner you care and stop being proud.
I've seen men and women literally change because of their partners. Intellectually and in other areas of life.
People leave relationships and still talk bout how much the relationship added to them.
Yours doesn't have to end tears all the time, if you feel you're being less of what you can be or your partner is not supportive in any way. Please walk. Before it becomes a life long decision, break free.
Speaking of support, support your friends too.
People only remember the ones who stood by then when they were rising.
Since this is more of a relationship post, push your partner/spouse to become more. Their win should be your win and not a threat to you.
Encourage them with words even if they are not going at the pace you expected. Be patient with them.
Intelligent people are not born, they are made. Make yours.
Your star personnel is already out of your league or maybe not, but the closest thing is making your partner someone you're proud of any time, anywhere. It's yours and not anybody else's.
Your relationship can be a grooming ground. Your partner can become whatsoever you want them to become. Invest in them too.
Be responsible for your partner, being a relationship is responsibility and beyond saying I love you.
For me, I want to call my partner and talk about how tensed I was while doing something, how I feel something is a bad idea, I want to talk bout everything. I know absolutely what I want in a man. Know what you want in your partner too.
Don't forget, love your partner o or someone will💛
I'll be starting a daily series on how to sail through in 2022 from this week. Do well to read, share and leave a comment.