Beautiful evening!🌷
How are you all?
I hope you are all, doing well and happy together with your friends, loved ones, and family!.❤
This is my entry into the Ladies of Hive Contest
1️⃣ When was the last time you tried something new? Did it change you?
Or
2️⃣ What life lesson did you learn the hard way? How did it alter your perception or attitude?
I think my answer will answer both the questions.
I WILL STOP MY HABIT OF PROVING MYSELF TO ANYONE
I have this habit of explaining myself to anyone, just to prove if I am right or wrong?. It's exhausting!!! hehe especially when you are sleepless, tired.. then you will be surprised by so many side issues hehe..what a day! I am tired...
Maybe, it was because of my job, that I always use to explain to my co-workers, about anything at work even the small details of our projects, because it was all needed, or simply because I am a person who doesn't want to intimidate or to hurt others in any way.
There are some people, who love to shape another person according to what they want to think of them in their mind or according to their beliefs, and it's not good, because it's biased. If you put yourself on the person who is being judged wrongfully, how and what would you feel?. It's becoming a trend, not only in the online world but in reality too.
First of all, It's not my thing to grab anyone's attention intentionally, in all aspects of my life I always make my work good, because that is how I wanted to be like, that is why I always say I never compete with others, I compete with myself only, because in that way I don't need to pressure myself to be better than anyone, because each of us has uniqueness in us. Because it's not my habit to mind others' life negatively, because it is bad and shameful behavior.
I don't want to hurt anyone in any way, there are so many examples that I could share with all of you here, or might I say some circumstances that became a lesson to me. The reason also that sometimes it's hard for me to give my trust or decide on some things. Because of the mentality of some people..each has a different way of understanding, I never said that they are bad, nor am judging them negatively, but they also don't have the right to judge me or anyone, according to what they think, one-sided. I never asked or requested them to have their eye on me, to the extent of invading my privacy not particularly in the online world but in real life too, like what had happened to me at my job, some eyes there focused on my achievements negatively, without even minding how I acquired it.. that may happen in any aspect of life too.
Like what I have said it's not in my life only but it could also happen to anyone. Now, who is on the wrong side here? nobody..because each of us has a different situation. But I am thankful for those people whose intention is good, I know it is always, like the one whom I trusted the most, because of having a big heart and inspiration to everyone. Hehehe! I am not angry or what, I'm just a bit disappointed..not of the strategy but I felt like I am bad in a way..on things I am not doing, or I'm not doing anything right hehe, got me to get confused on my self in a way.
I'm speaking in general. Things that are commonly happening in our society without side stories, or double talks here. Read it as it is, no need to read between the lines. Because I always clearly write my blogs, I just don't know why sometimes it was misunderstood that it has a hidden story or side stories.
I wanted to make it clear that I don't write blogs with side stories if it's about my life.
Like for example, when I said I am angry with my superior because he was ill-mannered, that was it. I never intended to hit anyone, to get disturbed, that was why I also got surprised hehe, it was actually what is happening, just that sometimes things or events are coincidentally similar to what is happening with others' stories. It was because of the invasion of privacy, and some just molded a story according to what they are thinking or see. I am not feeling bad for or on anybody, what I wrote here is just my observation, maybe after this. I don't know, our life is unpredictable, we may never know If we are still in this world tomorrow or not, so it's always important to get our soul ready by making our heartbeat in goodness and righteousness, to avoid putting smoky air in other peoples lives. In the good heart is where paradise is situated, that is my belief..so anytime we are ready to face the almighty.
It's also not my habit on depending on anyone most especially in material or financial matters like now that I have resigned from my job, I resigned for my Mom, I have enough savings even if I don't work, and I could easily find a job anytime I wanted to. In a relationship, I will never see my partner as my bank, nor finding a partner because of money. Terrible! But the reason for my resignation was my mother, I canceled my trips because of her too, aside from the unhealthy situation in my workplace, and to give time for myself too..but sometimes beautiful things have the tendency to get ruined because of lack of trust and feeling of disappointment from annoying issues. Even in the love aspect, it's worthless if trust is missing.
For a single woman or man, I think it is natural that some eyes got interested in them whether they like it or not, it's beyond control. Like for myself, in the office, I admit that some were showing interest in me, aside from my ill-mannered superior, I don't even know their names hehe but it doesn't mean that I am entertaining each of them my goodness hehe..what I couldn't understand is, some people made it appear like a sin or a mistake or I don't know? Or some may see you as a cheater..of what..on what..on whom? Because somebody wants to talk to you? What if you see a two-person along the road and appears to be talking but the reality was they don't even know each other, and just both waiting for a public vehicle and the other talk any none sense? Pretty sure to some people a story was already created in their mind colorfully.
Well, it's not only happening to me, but I guess with other single women or men also. Hehe..it is beyond control. Sometimes our society is truly disgusting in some ways.
Even if those who are already in a relationship or those who are married. I think this is a good question to ask. Is it bad to have a man as a friend? Or if you are a man..is it bad if you have a woman as your friend? Especially if they already exist in your life. Maybe it becomes bad if you put malice on it. So the sin is not on the person being judged, it is on the mind of those who give the judgment..and I think the words loyalty and faithfulness will come into the scene if a person is committed in a relationship. And this is also the word trust should be observed too.
One thing that I always want to clear here. My crowning glory is my self-worth, self-value, self-respect, and dignity.
I am living my life, in righteousness, and I never plan to discard it with any shades of immorality and wrongdoings, I am not perfect, I have a lot of flaws, but I am proud to say that my dignity, self-respect, self-value, the goodness of the heart are not part of my flaws and I am a trustworthy person because that is how I was raised by my beloved parents and family, and that is how I am living my life, and forever will be..even if others believe me or not. It's not my problem anymore.
If I will continue to level up in life even one thousand times, I will only enhance the "me"..but will never change it to be another person. Because I humbly say, I'm very much contented of being me, because this is how God wanted me to be, that is why he created me as me.
Maybe this is the last time that I will explain myself..because it's the "Change" and "Something New", that I wanted to add to myself today. I got tired, so exhausted in explaining myself. I have so many things to think about in my private life, I guess it's better to focus there, with family..so my Mom will feel my presence, after all, I don't know how long she will live, maybe tomorrow..only God knows.
So this is the " something new" to stop or as much as possible to avoid explaining myself to anyone just to prove if I'm right or wrong, and this will give a better version of me, of not too much thinking of what others will say or think of me..as long as I am not doing anything wrong. It's up to them, it's their right but I just hope this will not give a negative outcome on another's life.
No negative feeling to anyone, I just wrote what I need to write to support my answer that this community is asking for.
This is truly a wonderful topic..thank you the Ladies of Hive community for bringing it on here. I am inviting my Sis 
Here is the CONTEST POST LINK
I hope you all like it!
Please take care and have rest whenever there is a chance, always keep and wear a beautiful smile like this👉😁💕..let God be the center of life forever and always!🙏
God be with you all!
GOD LOVE US ALL!❤
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