“99 advisers, 0 helper” is one hilarious statement I heard and picked up in a random conversation someone was having. I found it very funny that anyone would think like that. Later on, i understood it was out of frustration and a lot of unsolicited advices with zero action and actual help.
As someone who’s a fresh graduate, I can relate to that one statement in just a short period . You have people giving you opinions from left, right and center, telling you different things you must try out and do. The worst part is when they always think they know better for you and don’t care to ask for your opinion. It’s even more ridiculous because these people most times aren’t your immediate parents but infact distant family members who derive pleasure from being very annoying.
Overtime, I mastered the art of ignoring and holding my tongue . I’m not the nicest when it comes to speaking when I’m upset and I can’t stand or partake in the ‘elderly’ people card.
Also to avoid them calling a family meeting on my head🙃.
I also understand most of the advice is from a place of care but you just clock the ones that are doing what Naija people call ‘eye service’. When push comes to shove and these advices now require ‘actions’, they’ll be no where in sight to be found which is very ironic. It’s exactly those set of people I’m referring to.
Sadly, a large number can relate to this.
GOOD HEALTH IS UNDERRATED
These past few weeks have been overwhelming. I got sick for sometime and could barely eat all of my favorite meals. It was then i realized how important good health is and expressing gratitude for being healthy is a must.
My go-to throughout this period were fruits, everything was tasteless and it’s a period I’ll hate to experience again.
All I kept thinking about is the amount of food I’ll eat to make up once I got better.
Thankfully, after almost a week and a few days, my health improved and I regained my appetite back.
RECOVERY
After weeks of being overwhelmed with a lot of things and the constant thought of if I’m on the right path triggered by naysayers, I decided to give myself a huge break without feeling sorry or trying to put in any work.
A break to relax, enjoy solitude. A few times I enjoyed the company of my friends.
I tried out a new restaurant with my favorite outing partner. I ate Amala for the first time and it was too yummy. I enjoyed my experience a little too much.
My friend also bought a new digital camera and she tried to test run by taking pictures of me. I was her unpaid model but it was a really fun time with lots of laughs and friendly banter.
I learnt a bit about digital photography and took other cute pictures as well.
Deciding to take a break and engaging in all of these activities helped me gain clarity. It helped me recover fully and also improved the state of my mental health.
I’m now well rested and my break was very much needed than I thought.
I missed posting on hive too.
If you’re overwhelmed, how do you handle it?
I’ll advise taking some time off everything and just engaging in things that bring you joy, it can be the littlest things like ‘food’.
I don’t hesitate or compromise my enjoyment time because I truly ‘ cannot come and kill my self’.😃