Roots of bodyshaming
Since childhood I always have been skinny , but I never realised that until my teenage. I never had the thought of me being skinny is not normal for everyone else. At first I was body shamed and it was portrayed as a joke. It was a girl who had first done this to me, it’s because the guy she had a crush on, he used to have a crush on me. She just body shamed by saying “why would any guy like a skinny girl their choice must have bland taste.” I still remember her words which had wounded me deeply and I can still hear her voice in my ears. What if she actually was joking? But it gave me scars that I could never erase. I started to look at myself in the mirror with the thought that I don’t look good as other girls because my bones are visible. Multiple times I was made fun of and they body shamed me. I started to eat beyond my limits and it caused me to vomit. I was sad and curious for not gaining weight. I used to search online how to gain weight and my parents also got worried because I used to stay sad.
Parents point of view
My parents always have been supportive they have always told me that I am beautiful the way I look. Of course they want me to stay healthy and eat up to time to time. Despite that my body won’t get much better no matter how well I eat, it’s something that I could never control that’s what my parents said. They always have told me that staying healthy is the most important thing than those things. I may eat healthy and not get sick that’s how it should be. But no mater how much they had motivated me I always had the deep thought for being skinny is shameful.
Grounded by others
I used to wear full sleeve baggy clothes so that my hands are covered no one can see the bones. Even I had a best friend she didn’t spare me also made fun of it. When I tried to confront her that I don’t like this type of jokes then she started to defend by saying I have less sense of humour. She could never understand how bad I felt.
High-school life
I had dated someone in my high school time and he used to taunt me about me being skinny. That I need to gain weight and eat more and more. He also had compared me with other girls and his dream type girl. Which left me with insecurities. I felt like if I don’t get the ideal type of body then he’s gonna keep looking at other girls. Also I caught him few times stalking other girls on instagram, felt like he was regretting having me he could’ve find someone with better body shape. I was lost had no one to guide me to get out of this situation. I used to cry and pray to gain weight faster. I can’t explain how low I used to feel about my self.
Turning point in Adulthood
Day by day I got into my better version. My thoughts had changed gradually. I started to look at myself in a different way. I got to understand what’s good and bad for me. I had realised if someone truly loves me they will love me the way I am. I don’t need to change myself and fit into their bowls to be perfect for themselves. I love the way I am now, God has created me and his creations are beautiful that’s what I tend to believe for the rest of my life. It’s very scary how few words said by others can haunt someone for years and years. When maturity heats you can see everything crystal clear how much importance we give to others opinion.
What causes others to bodyshame?
Sometimes it’s out of jealousy it doesn’t matter if you have done something or not! Some people are not happy in their life so they choose to downgrade others to make themselves feel good. They don’t have a life to enjoy they prefer to make people feel at their lowest. Seeing others in pain feeds their ego.
Love your body
Trust me listening to others can prevent you from many opportunities and you don’t wanna miss that. Currently I am doing photo shoot session for clothing brands out 80% out of 100% they love me the way I am they don’t care about how skinny I am they have accepted me for who I am. The rest of them always giving negative vibes saying who would hire a skinny girl but look if I listen to them I can never get the best things in my life and miss those opportunities to bring out the best of me. This brand has chosen me despite knowing I am skinny they have liked my works that’s why they wanna work with me. So it doesn’t matter if you are fat or skinny. All that matters is the surroundings better to keep it clean and let those toxic people out of your life! In recent time I feel good about myself and proud of what I am today.
Besides up-downs are important in life so that we can learn the lessons.
I would say before uttering a word everyone must think twice because it can be painful for someone else for his/her whole life. If you don’t prioritise your needs then no one will. That’s what I am thinking of all of the time! Loving my self is the best thing I can do for my betterment! Also one of my favourite quotes of Thich Nhat Hanh “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” So don’t hesitate to love yourself!
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