So, i know many of you might be wondering who bunmi was? Bunmi was my childhood bestfriend, who lost her both parent at age 5 and she was brought down to kano to stay with her uncle who was married with 3kids. Bunmi was a pretty , smart, hairy and intelligent young girl.We literally grew up together, went to the same school,same class, we play ,eat,sing and dance together. we practically, did so many things together. I loved Bunmi and i took Bunmi like my family, as some point people started calling us twins..We where so closed to the extend that we both choosed the same university when we registered and sat for jamb.
Bunmi got admission into the university while i got into a polytechnic. We where both sad, but there's was nothing we can do about it. We where both scared of leaving eachother, but we have to, because we need to further schooling.
So, in 2017 Bunmi left kano city for ibadan city in nigeria for her Bachelor of science (bsc) in agriculture while i stayed back in kano for my National diploma(nd), we both promised ourselves to continue looking out and praying for eachother. Bunmi left kano finally, and she promised to always come around during the holidays to visit me and her uncle. Myself and bunmi would talk almost every day on phone and we video called eachother. Bunmi never missed out on what was happening in my life and same with her too.
However, things soon went south between myself and Bunmi when she moved to 2nd year in school, i noticed somethings changed, she soon distanced herself from me, communication stopped, she started avoiding my calls and would not call back. The same applied to our communication via text, I would drop her messages on Facebook but bunmi would not reply me. I got tired and stopped calling or messaging her, I felt maybe she needed her space and she was tired of our friendship. You know how sad and tiring it can get when you are the only person trying to make a relationship work out. Overtime, our communication ended.
2020, the thought of Bunmi over flooded my mind again and then I decided to message her on Facebook, it was strange the message got delivered but she didnt respond. I decided to call her line but its was switched off. I got tired again and i didnt message her or call her for like five months.
Then, on a monday morning, google photos designed a Pic celebrating my 3years memory of me and bunmi, I saw how happy we were and i decided to message her again its got delivered immediately ,but she didn't reply me. I called her line again it says switched off.i felt very bad and i kept asking myself what could i have done wrong to her, I've never done or think any evil towards her, never spoken about her in a negative way to my family or anyone around, i was always there to assist her, i was a very good friend to bunmi. So what could be the issue i kept asking myself?
Its been two years now, and her line still says " switched off". The last person that saw her was her hostel roommate she told her goodbye, she was going for her morning lectures. Its been two years of unanswered questions and memories that keeps coming to me. This grief I feel each time I think of her is unexplainable ,the longing I can't seem to get away from, the love , the friendship, the sisterhood we both shared all gone just like that? Oh No! the goodbye that stays stuck in your throat.
I see her in my dreams sometimes she's almost getting back home, other times its will be her calling my phone, other times i will ask her what happened to her? When will she be back? Is she safe? Each time i wake up with my pillow wet from my tears. Its so impossible to heal and forget about bunmi. Each day i long to see her, i imagine she's somewhere ,it just has to be, looking out for her, i feel she could be here or there, checking if i have found another sister or friend like bunmi.
Bunmi, where are you? Did i do something wrong? I hope you are alive and strong. The questions I desperately want to ask Bunmi.
With tears in my eyes, I request that you help me ask Bunmi if you see her. Please!!! 😭
