Hello beautiful #ladiesofhive, how are you all doing today? I am really glad as I had this topic on my table for years now and I've not really had the time to fully talk about it and today I have decided to actually drift the topic as I am hoping to get more response on how to react when one is being forced into marriage by their parents especially in the case of a lady being forced into marriage.
This is something I have always been hearing right from a very young age but I have never had the opportunity to actually witnessed someone pass through that kind of pain and pressure not until I left home to school and I met this beautiful girl that later became a very close friend and sister. Our friendship leads her to come visiting my family
and I did the same visiting her family house as well. She was my very good friend and she was perfect in her own way. She had this spirit of always carrying people along and it was through her I learnt how to bake cake and some other chops as well but that aside, there has been something troubling her and she didn't hide it from me as I gradually turned to a sister as she was the only girl in her family with two boys.
She told me how her family have been pressuring her into marriage especially her mother and she wanted to hear my own opinion and as of then I was just about 17 to 18 years old and I didn't have any relationship experience apart from books I read and so I applied the knowledge and told her to follow her heart as any decision she take will affect her positively or negatively in the present days or in the future. It happened right in my eyes the very last time I visited her family house how her mother was treating her. At some point I thought she was an adopted child because I didn't understand how a mother will treat her daughter in such way but funny enough she was her biogical mother. I know that there are different reasons to how people react and how people behave and so I might not really understand the reason why a mother will want to force her daughter into a marriage she have no interest on, but I believe that at this my age and current expirences in life and the little understanding I have gathered on my own so far, I on my understanding have come to the conclusion that it is not nice to actually force someone Into what they are against, be it your child especially in the case of marriage. I mean we now leave in a modern era for crying out loud.
How will you respond to this if you were in her shoes or if you had a friend that needed your advice?
It is very important to note that privacy is something I cherish so much and so before I disposed this information here, I have actually took permission from my friend before disposing this information, and the good news here is that she got married to someone she actually love last year and she's still happy in a beautiful marriage with someone that truly loves her.
~Above image source~ Edited
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