The wail of a newborn baby symbolizes the beginning of wonderful moments, a journey every lady will embark on at some point in life which is the "motherhood", am using this moment to wish everyone who has gone through/experienced childbirth a "marvelous and prodigious mother's day".
A different season in the ladies of hive contest whereby the ladies in the house are allowed to air their perspectives on this topic is below!
What are your thoughts on the way women have been treated in the past, and how are they being treated now?
Certainly, this will spark so many controversies and entries will be enormous and vast too! I hereby drop my entry for my prominent readers to reflect on!
It's no longer a new thing that these nonchalant conspiracies still transpire in our modern society, it is such a pity anyways if I am to say!
I am Cesca Jove, a Lady who grew up in a country called
Women have been treated as a pansy and nonentity back those days but it seems they haven't had enough of their mishaps and inviolable attitudes, time flies, culture fades and things evolve.
As 
Has anyone set time aside to think about their daughter's life, her passion, goals, and dreams and her limit would be the society!?!⁉️
I am a broad-minded personality and I know that women also have rights in society regardless of any position at all. It's gender inequality when one thinks that we don't have dreams, goals, aims, and ambitions to fulfill.
They always want to be the head and never in their entire life be the tail, they always want to rule over and over us, they always want their yes to be yes and no to be no, and they always want to be listened to whilst ours isn't important, they always want to show superiority thereby inflicting inferiority, they always place us in the kitchen, making babies and taking care of home nothing more nothing less, they see us in the society as the lesser beings subjected to oppression, underestimation, nothing more than a mere woman, and who are these? They are the MEN particularly the conservative ones, who think we are unuseful to them and therefore we don't matter.
The most loving part of this is that a woman can do all these and the opposite of this and still be a successful, sweet and respectful woman, it takes a wise woman to put all these in check and still maintain her household perfectly well. This is when you know your place as a woman.
Allow me to share this encounter!
In Nigeria, the majority of the African men see us as an inferior group despite the age differences in women, and to be honest I see that as being disrespectful. I was on a tricycle heading to the market just some miles away, instead of walking I boarded that tricycle, and I sat at the left edge of the mini vehicle, the driver still waiting for passengers to fill in the vacant spaces so he could move without stopping to pick passengers. Another passenger swooped in quickly and sat at the right edge leaving vacant space in the middle. In no time a man approached the vehicle and commanded me to shift right into the middle. At first, I looked at him to know if he was serious about the way he sounded or if it was a joke, he looked mean and serious so I shifted my legs thereby creating a space so he could go into the mini vehicle, he insisted I adjusted inside and murmur and said “a woman ought to sit in the middle, not a man”
...and I was like...
... wow! wow!.. (within me). I became upset just a little.
I simply put it this way to him in a straight and precise manner with no atom of fear for whatsoever or whosoever he was ...
He looked at me and left immediately, I was so mean, how could he think so little of me to sit in the middle of two men when I was preferring to sit at the end to see activities and inhale natural air whilst driving through the busy road!
And something like this has happened to me twice now with one also I encountered from an older woman and it left me to wonder why's Nigeria men mentality so cheap?! Even to the extent of showing their lack of reasoning outside their home!
He said that a woman didn't suppose to sit at the right hand of a man, isn't that ridiculous??...you can imagine the imagination! (my slang) chuckles
I can and will sit anywhere it pleases me to!! Why bring the superiority to me because he feels am a woman?? I can't take that anyways! It baffles me to see that in Nigeria, women are the ones running the home 2-4-7 every day non-stop, most hawks around the market screaming at the top of their voice to attract potential buyers, selling items that have little or no gain just to put food on the table and yet they put us down, even some are undergoing domestic violence and wouldn't speak of it!
They have this sick mentality that a woman is a woman regardless of her size of success in the business field and career and her money belongs to the husband!! woah! incredible!
Ain't that possible for me to do, my money is my money regardless of my marital status, I can and only willingly choose to give my husband my money out of love, respect, and honor! No one would dare enforce me to do so!
When it comes to menstrual cycles, some thinks it's a taboo that a woman sees her cycle, although in some culture a woman who's menstruating is not allowed to come to a holy ground set aside for the gods of the shrine, according to them it neutralizes their charms and makes it ineffective, some say she's not worthy to stay here! But one quick question❓Is it our fault that it comes monthly?? Or is there any way we could cheat nature and it doesn't show up except we age?? Without a menstruation timeline can a woman conceive?
One time a woman can be treated nicely without hesitation is when she's pregnant, what the heck am I saying?
Treated nicely nah!! it depends though!!
Some men enjoy the act of beating their wife up pregnant or not! How can someone beat up a pregnant woman to the extent she had a miscarriage and lost the baby at that spot! That's inhumane.
Is there any niceness there??
These days, women who are pregnant are even stronger than you think, yes they are delicate at that point but still, some would be strong enough to open hard doors, go to the gym, go for a run, go to the mall to get groceries, still run home in a steady motion. Why treat me nice when am pregnant and when am not he goes back to a normal routine, treating me equally preg or not! Even to date, women are still treated as something else but gradually it's fading by the day because they are realizing that it's time they stand up for themselves. How about cheating, you know what they say to my hearing most times I eavesdrop on their conversations...
“A man has the right to cheat and a woman doesn't"
Like seriously???!!!
LMAO 🤣 let's not divert into that because I have seen, hear and taste experiences of the subjection they have placed on a woman.
I grew up seeing the way women are referred to as just a mere woman who has no say or opinion to cast out, being seen as an object who has their willpower taken from them and enslaved to do as they asked without any obstructions, and I refused to be like that.
When I try to explain myself on matters arising, what they sense is that am disrespectful and unqualified to be a wife material but when you do as they say you're a wife of substance...
And despite the indignities women face every day, they still soar higher and higher in every aspect of their life, time flies, culture and some practices fades, and things evolve, as for this modern times although this subjection still lingers we have women who have become notorious and recognized for their achievement in the industry, determination and focus matters!
In all essence please take note, I talked about some certain group of people who does this to women, not all men, they are a bunch of sweet and humble personalities out there who care for a woman and want to see her flourish in her passion! Amazing souls who would even go extreme miles to make a woman happy and content.
Thanks for reading this piece!
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