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Whenever I'm going on a date with a person, whether it's the first time or it's someone I'm used to hanging out with, I have really personal rules that I call "the unbreakables".

Always find out the location for the date before the day if I'm not familiar with the venue

I realized that whenever I'm going on a date, I feel much more comfortable at a venue that I have been to before. Each time my date picks a venue I do not know, I always go to the place before the actual date day and see the environment for myself. It's not a very necessary rule but it's one I have been keeping.

Have more than enough money with me

The money factor cannot be emphasized enough when going on a date. I have been a victim of disappointment when it comes to money while I went out with a guy. It wasn't a date per say but I didn't have enough money for transportation and the guy had assured me he would take care of it. He didn't show up for hours and we met that day by accident. He had to borrow money from his friends to give me the transport fare but still, the money he gave wasn't enough to take me back home. Since that day, I vowed to never rely on a man for money. I always have more than enough money whenever I'm going on a date even if my date has a car and would drive me to and fro.

Always tell someone else where I'm going

This rule is also very important to me. The insecurity issues in Nigeria are too serious to be played with. Whenever I'm going on a date, I do well to inform a few people where I'm going and with whom. This way they know who to query if they can't find me or hear from me in 12 hours.

Lateness is not allowed

Time is one of the most important things in life which people misuse a lot and sadly once it's lost it can't be recovered. I feel it's very rude to have a date with someone and show up late. It can be pardoned if you have called to say you'd be late and state why but if it isn't this way then it's not right. Someone cleared his/her schedule to meet me, it's only important that I be on time.

Only order for things I can afford to pay for

Some ladies see a date as an opportunity to empty a man's pocket. They go out and order things with an outrageous amount. I came up with a rule that whenever I'm out on a date, I'll only order what I can afford to pay for.

And I always ask myself, what if something happens and my date can't pay for what I ordered?

Maybe he leaves without settling the bill? I should be more than capable of paying for what I ordered so this is a rule for me.

Put my phone away

It is also very rude to be on a date with someone and still fiddle my phone in their presence. It gives the impression that the person is boring and not worth my attention so I try as much as possible not to do that. It's a date, I should be focused and not distracted.

These are my few but unbreakable rules when going on a date.

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