Hello ladies! It's a pleasure to bring a worthy message your way today and it's all about the do's and don'ts when visiting a guy for the first time. Few days ago, I was privileged to have a chat with a few ladies in my neighbourhood and one of the things we got to talk about was our first visit to a guy's place. We all shared information concerning our relationship with the said guy, what we did there and our overall experience. Through this discussion, I was able to pick out some things the ladies did wrong including myself and what they did right. Kindly read on as I share these tips with you.

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(1.) Dress to Impress

Your appearance says a lot about you as a lady no matter where you find yourself. It is important to dress to make an impression. Not just any impression but a good impression. There's a saying that goes : Dress the way you'd like to be addressed. This is always my guide on what to wear each time I'm going somewhere.
Keep your dress simple and lovely. Wear something very comfortable and make sure that you're not seductively dressed. It's not a good idea to give someone the impression that you are loose on the first visit even though it may not necessarily be the case. Hence, dress well. Keep it decent and neat.

(2.) Smell Good

Though this point sorts of relates to the first one, I decided to make it independent for the purpose of emphasis. It's just as bad if you dress well but you smell awful. Some people seem to be allergic to body sprays and perfumes but there are mild ones. Find out what your system approves and use it. At least a deodorant / anti-perspirant. I hope you know that good scents are difficult to forget so if you want a good memory of you to linger on your inverter's mind, smell great!

(3.) Look, Don't Touch

Some ladies are hyper-active and so curious. That's not a bad thing but a lady has got to learn how to be calm and collected. A first visit is not a time to know all the aspects of the house and everyone in the pictures on the wall. Do not do too much. It's very irritating to me if someone visits me for the first time and is moving everywhere and touching everything on sight. Don't do that! Comport yourself. Sit where you're directed or offered and be less inquisitive.

(4.) Do Not Cook On a First Visit

Personally I have been a victim of this particular error. I love cooking and I'm a great cook but back then, I just didn't know when to do it and when not to. In as much as you may just be cooking because you love to, a guy could get the impression that you're trying too hard to impress him so save the skill and energy and allow yourself to be served as a guest on the first visit.

(5.) Do Not Make The Conversation Entirely About Yourself

During a first visit and even subsequent visits, during conversations, try as much as possible to not get carried away. As you speak, allow the other party to make inputs as well else he might be irritated or overwhelmed.

(6.) Always Have Extra Money For Unforseen Circumstances

In recent times, there's been so much debate in my part of the world about who's supposed to pay for the lady's transport fare when going on a date. Some men are of the opinion that it is greed or selfishness to ask a guy to even pay for the meal or transport fare. Ladies, to avoid unnecessary drama, have your own money and have no expectations. That way, you don't get disappointed if the man doesn't drop you off at home or offer to assist with your transportation fare.

These are the few tips I have to share with you all concerning first visits. Do you have any contributions to make? You can leave them in the comments section.

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