Greetings ladies in the house, is another week to answer the two lovely questions before us:
(1) How do you recover from emotional pain or grief
(2) You received an invitation to three special occasions, but they all fall on the same day and at different locations, a wedding of your cousin, a huge family reunion, and your best friend's wedding anniversary. Where would you go and why?
Emotional pain can be wicked and harmful and if not controlled by the individual. The advise and caution you give to yourself remains the best solution therapy for recovery from emotional grief
There are different causes of emotional pains and i have encountered both so am in a position to tell you better:
(1) The Invisible Causes: You see growing up as an orphan brought me so emotional pains, this is the example of the unseen, i didn't see it coming. We are two girls our parents gave birth to and growing seen my elder sister misbehave, she didn't want to further her education, but rather preferred going round the whole village until night, i now found myself in the position of the elderly, trying to call her to order but no way, my complain to people worsened everything. This minute one person will tell me ha! Do you know where i saw your sister? Another minute another person will come with different story oh! God i almost died if not his mercy. Because i developed sleepless nights, lost of appetite and high blood pressure at that teenage time, my true life story At any slightest noise my mind will fly and i kept struggling for life and by then i already know that there's fire on the mountain, my life was at a treating stage when i called and said to myself one day; what have you done to yourself? Do you you know if you die now, the world will continue and you won't even know if your sister does good or bad again and by then she has ended up destroying you. Right them i began call myself to order, cautioned myself based on that fear, that i was not going to take any drugs considering my age i was even shy to go to any chemist to say give me drugs for high blood pressure. I said to myself again free your heart, death can happen to anyone and if comes you might not even stop it, so why are you afraid of whatever noice, it says again why not live this life as if is not your own and truly the life we live is a borrowed one, once the owner seizes the air you are gone so the one you should be afraid of is the owner of life and he said you shall not die but live to testify of his goodnessl, from that day i released myself from fear and i bought a smaller radio which i used in listening to christian music in a low tuned from morning to night, it helped me a lot to relieve burden and how everything vanished i didn't know and today my sister is happily married with four kids
(2) The Visible ecauses: The visible cause of emotional pain is the one that just happened to me recently and am still on it. I was in my house early last month, a friend called me and said, eh! There's a link she sent me in my WhatsApp i should fill it and join, when i saw it i thought of ponzi scheme but due to how they organized everything and my friend's conviction made me joined despite that tere offers made me ask myself question what are you working for this people that will make them pay you ike this? Another came according to their method of payment, my money will be in there hand for 65 days, some 120 days depending on the machine you pay for, they called it mining machines i assumed since they will hold my money that long before it to giving me. I just took ok the risk because i needed money for something urgent and i was putting in the little money i have until i gradually finished the money in my account just to see if it will add up to something but low and behold i did the last on a Saturday, on Monday they came up with upgrades story which they said will last for three days, till today everything has gone crashed. Since three weeks now i have been fighting to overcome the emotional pain well i told myself even if you die now because of money the world will continue, that's the only consolation i have, what will i do? I brought this upon myself and another way to overcome is not discussing it with people who will worsen my pain with blame as am trying to overcome my emotional grief
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Being my cousin is not a guarantee, on the wedding of my cousin, my best friend's anniversary and a huge family reunion happening the same day on a different location; for me what will determine which one to attend is our intimacy this time, yes how they responded to my own things when i had my own occasions or other things. The relationship between us, you can be my cousin and we don't relate well even if i come to her wedding i will not be noticed or recognized definitely i will not attend to such wedding. I will rather go for that cousin, best friend,or family reunion that is of more important to me. Among the three one most be too related and more important to me, that's the one i will attend to
Thank you for going through, see you on my next post i appreciate 🙏🙏
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