When it comes to forgiveness, it is a very sensitive topic, not just to me but to most people. Some because of their religious background, while others because of their general belief system. But let's think of it this way - I know we are told it is best to always forgive for both our good and the good of the person that hurts us. However, I feel there's something fundamentally wrong with that teaching. Why? Because forgiveness might be good, but the always attached to it is the problem.
If a particular person always does something that requires forgiveness, then maybe that person doesn't deserve to be forgiven. I know many people would disagree with me on this particular view, but if you look at it from my perspective, you might understand what I'm saying. If someone really deserves your forgiveness, would they keep hurting you countless times? Think of it that way, and you'd understand that at times, it's best you just forget both the person and the ugly memory and move on with your life.
Forgiveness might be beneficial, but never giving the person the chance to do it again is where the issue comes in. I feel forgiveness sometimes comes with this unintentional closeness, which ends up giving birth to chances of another hurt that would require another forgiveness. It's like, you're just setting yourself up for more pain.
In summary, I feel not everyone deserves that constant forgiveness because, even though it might sound a bit selfish but, in all situations, the most important person should always be you. Prioritizing your own well-being and setting boundaries is crucial. If someone's actions consistently require forgiveness, maybe it's time to reevaluate the relationship and focus on yourself. Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to let someone back into your life or continue a toxic dynamic. Sometimes, forgiveness is about letting go, not about the other person.
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