Do you believe in lifelong fidelity?
If this question was asked when I probably have not seen and felt that a partner can be faithful to his or her words, I would have said a big "NO" because come on, I have seen a whole lot of shit from married couples.
I lived in a barracks, and I have seen a married man beat his wife up and disgrace her in public even when she caught him with his side chick and went to warn the side chick to stay away from her husband.
I have seen a married man warn his wife to keep shut while he professes love to his side chick in front of his wife. I have also seen a married man date his tenant and church member under his wife's nose and much more horrible, wrecking, and devastating stories I have not seen but heard from others about marriage and how many are only staying married to their unfaithful partners because of their children and at a point in time, I told myself, "I am never going to be walking down that road with anyone."
I know, how painful it can be to find out one day that the man you made your marriage vows with, the one who promised to be the man you ever dreamed goes behind your back or probably decides to disrespect you by breaking your vows and I know I ain't cut out for such pains because I am not sure what I can do when someone hurt me that much.
Over the years, I felt that it is always going to be the same, and if that is the case, then what is the need for putting oneself in such a spot, when one could do better and profitable things with her life but I have come across couples that stand by their words and are doing everything to make their marriage beautiful and heaven on earth.
That is why I am always constantly considering this lifelong stuff and the toil It is going to take on me, the responsibility that comes with it, and all of the shit involved in it but notwithstanding, I do believe in love and a partner being faithful or standing by his commitment till death do them apart.
I believe that lifelong fidelity is a choice, in fact, an individual choice, and I have stopped generalizing it, so yeah, I do believe in lifelong fidelity.
This is my entry to the Ladies of Hive Community Contest #162