I have read quite some entries into this week's Ladies of Hive questions, and it's gladdened my heart to see everyone preaching about forgiveness. Seeing everyone talking about how important it is to cultivate the habit of forgiveness is refreshing.
For someone like me, who valued her peace of mind and liked to keep her conscience clean all the time, forgiving others who wronged me was easy. I do not know how to keep grudges; anything that is not adding positive vibes to me, I let it go as soon as possible. I chose this as a way of life a long time ago.
To be honest, forgiveness is a habit we must learn to cultivate every day of our lives; there are no two ways around this. In as much as we are human, there is no way we won't make mistakes from time to time, and forgiving one another is the way we can always move forward and forge ahead.
At a young age, I have seen the harm that lack of forgiveness can do to someone's peace of mind countless times, and I do not like going down that road.
We should forgive people whether they ask for it or not, whether they deserve it or not; we should forgive not for their sake but for the sake of our peace of mind. We should forgive so that we can truly heal from any pains they cause us.
When we carry such pain with us, we might end up hurting the innocent ones around us. And when we are the one that did something wrong, we should never hesitate to seek forgiveness and make amends.
Forgiving someone does not mean the wrong that has been done to us is okay; it means such wrong does not deserve a free rent space in our mind any longer. When we hold grudges, we give out our power, and forgiveness is getting that power back.
When I forgive someone for their wrongdoing towards me, letting such a person back into my space mostly depends on whether the person realizes their mistakes, asks for forgiveness, and is genuinely ready to change. If not, I can forgive someone and will never give them the chance to come close to me again.
This is simply how I can protect myself from people who are undeserving of my forgiveness, but I still had to forgive them anyways.
"Relax. Don't be hard on yourself; you are living and learning. Forgive yourself and learn from the experience."
Sometimes, the people who we should forgive are not those around us; sometimes, it's ourselves we have to forgive. If we can learn from every experience and forgive ourselves for any mistakes, we can easily move forward, forge ahead, and become a better version of ourselves.
"Life is too short to hold grudges; let it go, smile, and be free."
Yes, it's easier to hold on to the pains they cause, become a prisoner of our own mind or even think of taking revenge, but in doing that we do no one any good, especially not ourselves, so just let it all go and be free.
This is my humble take on this week's Ladies of Hive questions.
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