Giving back is important. With that in mind, how do you support the other women in your life?
LoL, so few days ago, a friend of mine called me and started complaining about how her boyfriend was reacting and being jealous over an harmless picture we all took with a mutual friend of ours in a program we went to and immediately she started complaining, I was already paranoid and telling her to go to sleep and not disturb herself over him, if he is so upset, he should as well go hit his head on the wall.
At a point, she had to tell me to stop shouting and let her explain and there and then, I realized that I could be doing too much trying to help her or restrict her from going back to a relationship that isn't of any benefits to her other than pain anf sadness.
Maybe I am overreacting and doing too much but I realized that when it comes to relationship topic, many of my friends tend to reach out to me more, even when I have little or no idea about relationship as I have consciously avoided one for a long time now but they just tend to believe that i have more ideas in such matters.
I post in my status, and all my social media handle, I scream it loud, talk more about it, sing it, I guess that's all i am meant to do or give back as that's all I can do and that's all i know.
I constantly remind them that they are good, they are enough, they are beautiful and deserve better and for no reason should settle for less. I constantly remind the ladies in my life that they are not to let anyone look down on them or talk them down and make them lose their self-worth, self-respect and self-esteem.
I constantly help the ladies in my life by reminding them to always be selfish, choice themselves and love themselves more and if it means dragging their ears in situations I see them belittle themselves, just so they can regain their senses, I wouldn't mind doing that.
I know most times I begin to feel like I am doing too much, most times, they tell me to calm down, but I guess that's my way of showing them how much I love them and wouldn't want to see them hurt over something or someone they could have avoided or walked away from.
It's hurt to see them sad or weep, and since I am always their go to person when they are heartbroken, I better let them or remind them that they can get what they wish for even tho humans aren't perfect. They don't have to settle for someone immediately especially when they have so many red flags that keeps hurting them.
My friends know how much I love them and how much I hate to see people hurt them or make them sad, but then, they still have to run everything through me but wouldn't let go even when I advice them to let go until it comes crashing, so I am the pillow and the shoulder support too and that's enough help. LoL
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