Hello ladies of Hive, I hope everyone is doing fine. I returned back to school and it has gotten in between the way I write on Hive. I checked the community contest and it's already past deadline for the current topic. So I decide to pick a old topic I found here
Every lover girl wants to go on romantic dates. Some call it old-fashioned but I believe that is the right way to get to know a potential romantic partner. There are so many date ideas, from fine dining to picnics, movie dates, bookstore dates, and park or arcade dates, depending on what's preferable for you and the other person. I love dressing up to go out with a fine man trying to woo me. Because of this, I have existing first-date rules that I always put in mind before I leave my house.
- Follow-up: If we already agree to go on a date on a particular day, it's very important that you keep in touch. On the day of the date, I expect the person to text me and confirm that it's still on. Don't just go about thinking that we still have a date if you don't follow up. Check-up in the morning and a few hours before the appointed time. That is exactly how it is done. It shows intentionality and I'm a sucker for that.
Avoid Tardiness: There's nothing that would kill my vibe faster than waiting for my date. I'm never late for a date or anything important in general. If there would be any inconvenience on my part, I make sure to inform the person beforehand so I expect the same. There's no reason why one should be late on a first date. It's manageable to show up five to ten minutes later than the appointed time but 30 minutes? Be rest assured that I will not be there waiting. Being late for the first date says a lot about a person.
No sexual-related questions: First dates are to know each other, things we like, what we do, and so on. It's deeply uncomfortable and creepy for girls when a man starts being overly sexual on a first date. Some men start asking questions like what's the nastiest thing you have done, when last did you have sex, what's your body count? Some go as far as resting their hands on your thigh or arm for seconds longer than necessary. I really wish I was making this up but it's something I've experienced first hand and I know so many other women have. It's inappropriate. There will be time to talk about things like that or even get sexual but that time is definitely not on the first date. If my date is like this, I would politely leave and go to my house.
No Alcohol: On my first date with someone, I don't take alcoholic drinks. I'm lightweight so a few drinks are all it takes to get me tipsy. Because I know my limit, I don't joke with this at all. I want to be in complete control of my mind and most importantly, I don't want to be taken advantage of by anybody using my drunkenness as a guise to carry out perverted thoughts So on a first date, I stick to mocktails, juice, or water.
Send my location to someone: Women are never safe and Nigeria as a whole is worse in areas of security. There have been stories of women who go out with men and never make it back home. To avoid being part of a statistic, I always inform my sisters or my best friend of the exact place I'm going. When I get there, I send my live location and demand that they call/text me every 30 minutes to check-in. If my date is picking me up, I discreetly send his plate number. If I'm using an Uber, I do the same. It's better safe than sorry.
These are the main rules I have before a first date specifically. When you lay down rules like this, it's difficult to land in trouble or with an unserious person. As for my ladies, please prioritize your safety. The streets are rough for us. Be safe. Happy Val's day in advance!
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