This is an entry for the Ladies of Hive Community Contest #22 by 
For this week contest, they have given two questions for us to answer and we can choose either one. For further details, click here
Who make better friends? Men or Women?
I do not think that it makes any difference between men or women because gender is not the thing that I am looking at when I choose to become friend with someone. I guess each gender do have their own speciality.
Women friends.
They talk a lot. I would not be lonely with them. I can call them or text them anytime I want to. At the time when I am at my worst, my women friend will come and scold me if I am destroying my self with stress. They sure kick the stress out of me. Even when I cry, they will know the right things to say. They might say words that hurt but if I think twice, it is the truth. They will just say what they need to say and wait for me to come back to my senses. Women friend are scary but it is only because they care.
The caring heart of women is unexplainable. They can do things like magic. They protect the people that they care for in silence. Most of them. Compare to men, I think it is easier for women to be empathy than sympathy. Most women friends that I know seem to have six sense, they will be able to sense when I am in trouble or something is troubling me. If I let them know my problems, they would not say a lot of things but secretly thinking about a way to help me.
When a woman helping a woman, they strengthen each other.
Men friends.
I cannot call them as I please especially for those that already married because that would not be nice. They do not talk much and they rarely respond. They mostly just listen to my babbling. Men are always protective but their weakness is that they do not approach. They are too silent. If I do not say anything they will stay quiet though I know that they always prepared to help.
I cannot expect them to understand my feelings because most of them will go for logical reasoning. The way a man can understand a situation is different from that of a woman. A man will usually wait for an explanation while a woman already comes out with a conclusion.
Comparing men with women, men are always the one that is calmer and able to give a more soothing answer based on logic.
As for my answer to the question above.
Men and women are both the best depending on the situation. Sometimes I need both to make my day shine brighter. Each means a lot to me. I cannot choose either one. No matter if they are friends that nearby me or if they are friends that I only met online, my feelings are the same.
There is one incident that happens around 7 years ago. After that, I no longer have the courage to take someone as my best friend. I keep my distance to protect my heart. I am afraid that the incident will happen again. I am now friends with the person again but I am afraid to care for her as I did before. It hurt me so much because I know that when I care for a person, I do care and if something happens, my heart will be shattered.
Someone said to me before, never love someone too much because you will never know how long they will stay. Just embrace the moment you are blessed with them. This is also the reason men or women are both the same for me. They are all the friends that I care for.
A friend does not need to say that they care but you will know that someone is your friend when you are able to see them for who they are. Scolding does not always mean anger because why do they need to be angry if they do not care?
This is one deep thinking topic. It just let me notice that no matter how much I want to keep my heart safe, I did not change much from back then.
If the second question did not ask for my picture with the board game I love, I have already chosen to answer the second question. It is like I am destined to answer this one question, not for the other but for myself.
I am inviting all of the women in #teammalysia to join this contest. 
