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Hello women in this community... Good evening everyone, especially to all the women who are already mothers and have children. 👫🤰🧑🍼
In this article, as a woman who is already a mother, I want to share my story, thoughts, and advice for all parents and mothers-to-be around the world who are members of this community.
First, let me tell you a little about a seemingly trivial issue that can have fatal consequences for a child's development and growth. When my friends in the women's empowerment community and I were conducting outreach activities in a village, I witnessed a situation that I found quite alarming: children and their parents were busy using their gadgets. This often occurs in households where couples marry young.
One villager even said that many parents were busy using their gadgets, and when their children cried, they would calm them by giving them their gadgets. There was also a child who had difficulty speaking despite being proficient, and his parents always thought it was due to supernatural powers. However, after being examined by a specialist, it turned out that their children were communicating excessively via telephone and television.
In cases like this, I believe it is very dangerous. Instead of showing affection to children by letting them play with gadgets, the result is that children are educated not by their parents, but by the internet, with all kinds of content. While children's material needs may be met by gadgets and internet access, their psychological and spiritual needs are severely lacking, and this is very harmful to their moral development.
If someone asks: is it wrong for parents to give their children gadgets?...
Of course it's not wrong, but if parents neglect to monitor their children's gadget activity, it will have fatal consequences in the future for both children and parents.
So, are there any suggestions for preventing children from playing with gadgets too much?...
There is no other suggestion than to return to each individual's parenting style. Parents are their children's first teachers, meaning the home is their children's first school. Children need examples more than advice and criticism. This means that no matter how often parents scold and advise their children about excessive gadget use, if parents themselves frequently flaunt their gadget use in front of their children, their children will likely be difficult to control, as their parents also frequently play with gadgets.
There's a saying that direct action is better and more important than a thousand words of advice.
So, in essence, my advice is to give our children gadgets, but don't forget to supervise them. Furthermore, don't forget that if we, as parents, set rules for our children to limit their gadget use, we must also enforce those rules. Rules shouldn't just be rules; those who make them shouldn't be the first to break them.