I believe that being adaptable is one of the best skills a person can have in order to live the happiest life possible.
I've lived long enough to know that no matter what we plan, life will always throw in twists and turns that we can't foresee. I believe learning to float over them is essential, otherwise we will get stuck on them and drown... or at least the bad ones.
Not all of the twists and turns are bad. Sometimes something unplanned or imagined can be good and bring extra happiness our way.
But for the ones that turn out to be negative, well, how they affect us in the end depends on how we learn to cope with them.
I realize we are all born different. Our brains are wired different, our environments and circumstances are different. We can believe that what we believe is good and right, but we have to accept that just because things seem common sense to us, other poeple's journeys may not have led them to the same conclusions... .or not yet. So we live in a world of differences.
Sometimes we have opinions about certain things that we see from the outside, but also, sometimes we go through experiences later that cause us to be able to see another point of view on it and we find that what we believed for so long may not have been just exactly right. I know I've had those experiences through my life. I believed one way and I was firm on it in my mind, then I lived through something similar and wow !.... I totally could not see there was much more too it than I could originally see. Instant opinion change !
But that is life..... learning and growing. Living through more and more experiences and finding the lessons in each. Sometimes just the lesson of learning to hone our coping skills for living with those things that happen that we have no control over and that we cannot change.
I think one key is learning to let go of those things we didn't ask for and cannot change. I learned a long time ago when something comes up, after my first initial exposure, I ask myself "Is there anything I can do about it? If there is, then I take that action and if the answer is no, then I acknowledge it..... and let it go.
I think forgiveness is kind of like that, letting go of the hurt or offense. Refusing to pack it in your imaginary backpack and dragging that emotional baggage around for the rest of your life.
I'm sure there is not a one-size-fits-all way to learn to adjust to these things in life, but I believe being determined to find that ability for yourself will be key to keeping as much of that happiness factor going throughout our lives.
Ok... it's time to call Mom and see what she is up too and maybe grab up some goodies and go out for a visit.
Hope you all have a fabulous day.
Love you ! Mean it !
Jacey
**As a note on these photos, Once I took my colorful old clothes, loungers and blouses that were basically trash and could no longer be worn. I ripped them into strips and added them to the decorative birdhouse and another wire basket ball (two wire baskets hooked together to create a sphere)... .and I made wind sock type things with them. It was fun and they were fun to watch when there was a nice breeze coming through. I hung an old CD in the birdhouse that also moved in the breeze and it would reflect the sunlight and shoot out a few sparkles here and there. Upcycling fun !
