We fell madly in love in a few hours and …|| LOH Contest #128

I can't believe it's been 46 years. After meeting him in a bookstore, taking him for coffee to a bistro inside the theater of fine arts in my city, eating a pineapple cake stuffed with apples my favorite, he left me at my house. After that day in 24 hours that we shared that Friday in the 70s decade we fell madly in love in a few hours, me with him and him with me, at the same time.

Our wedding anniversary usually depends on the day, if the date is in the week we have dinner as a date, we do not drink alcohol, but that day we toast with sparkling wine, preferably Cava, we like Spanish Champagne, and we are in a place we have never visited ... almost always when I arrive at the appointment he is already waiting for me with his tender smile.

If it's a weekend we go out of town, we do the same a love date, but we stay at the hotel and come back the next day, when we want to do something new we go to a beach, camping, river, island it all depends on the budget. And if the budget is limited I cook and have dinner at home and my husband prepares breakfast the next day, some egg whites with spinach and ricotta that are delicious for him.

When our daughters were living with us, we were all at home. Everyone knew no one was going for our anniversary dates, lol, it was just an outing for two.

I choose tenderness as the main filter this year when we almost reached 47 years in marriage in a couple of months.

In our intimacy, we are actually more tender, things go smoother, in a subtle way, more than picaresque, we value the looks, the gestures, the good conversation, the eternal and timely hugs.

We have not been together on many significant dates, so it is not very traumatic not to celebrate something, whether it will be next year or at another time we have always done it this way without haste, without stress because it serves as a mantra, filter and support in our daily interaction.

And so we do, in every area as a couple, knowing that we are vulnerable, we treat each other with tenderness, respect, honesty, openness and solidarity. We choose a tender treatment knowing the vulnerabilities that surround us and this is not infantilizing my husband or me, nor is it self-indulgence, much less permissiveness or pity, this is what we feel when, having in our hands something delicate like our relationship and knowing our strength and our power, we choose to protect it, take care of it and contemplate it.

There are days that mark beginnings.

They are small milestones, sometimes gradual, that tell us that we pass from one stage to the other. Many times we accompany these anniversary moments with ritual, such as blowing out the candles on a cake, receiving some flowers, easy laughter accompanies us, the desire to build and two daughters who are living testimony of this unconditional love.

Today I had a great epiphany with something he told me and that is that for our marriage bond for so many years trust is crucial, that it is natural that there are facts that sometimes crack it, but that it is possible to renew it...and that's yet another reason to celebrate our wedding anniversary.

A brief tour of our way.

I feel that it is a reality, sometimes we interpret some action as hurtful, but when we realize that our relationship is really sustained over time with love, affection, tenderness towards me in his heart, whether he makes some gesture of love, or because he simply sustains the bond, the renewal of trust occurs almost like a miracle that nourishes our soul.

Happy Anniversary, soon it will be 47 years of marriage, of that one if I accept you sealed with a kiss for life, to you my husband, who does not have a Hive or is on social networks, but who has been reading me since before he met me, I can only tell you that you are one of my favorite places, my safe harbor, my great love.

In the cover image, once again you carry me in your arms like that first time.