Greetings to all the beautiful fellow ladies,
It's been a long time since I wrote anything here, as I was inactive on Hive — but I am back! Since most of the readers might not know me, I am Kahakshan, 27 years old, from Delhi, India.
It was 2020, and COVID-19 was at its peak in my country. I was stuck at home with my younger sister for months, while my mother was stranded in the village due to the lockdown.
One of my cousin sisters was an asthma patient and used an inhaler regularly to help her breathing. It was May 2020 when my phone rang — it was my Uncle, informing me that my cousin sister was no more.
The incident happened just a week after Eid. When I heard the news, I was blank. I couldn’t process anything and just cried and cried.
Somehow, my sister and I managed to reach her place to say our final goodbye before she was buried forever.
She was a mother of three beautiful kids — and the youngest was just 2 years old. I can’t explain in words how heartbreaking it was to see her little son trying to understand what was happening to his mother.
I am sorry that I can’t go into more detail because even today, it is difficult for me. But I would love to share how I slowly healed from this big loss — and maybe it can help someone who is also going through grief.
First, I started to be more social. I met people who were close to me and avoided being alone too much, so that I would not keep drowning in painful thoughts.
I also connected myself more with God. If you believe in God, I truly feel this is one of the most powerful things you can do. Talk to Him, and read your scriptures.
You begin to understand that life and death are both part of a journey. We may not always like how it ends, but death is a reality every soul must face one day.
I gave myself time. Healing doesn’t happen overnight. It can take months — and that’s okay. You must be patient with yourself.
Watching how my cousin sister's daughters became stronger, taking care of their little brother, gave me incredible strength and hope.
Sometimes, you find strength by seeing how others survive and grow through their own pain.
Lastly, I learned that acceptance is very important.
You must learn to accept what happened. Only then can you start living with the beautiful memories that your loved one left behind, rather than staying trapped in sadness.
That is all for this blog. Thank you to the Ladies of Hive Community for encouraging such deep reflections.
To anyone who is hurting right now — please know that healing is possible, one small step at a time. 🌸