Hello everyone! So, for this week the Ladies of Hive have two emotive questions to play around with. Hehe. Here goes…
1️⃣ If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up?
Every morning when I wake up, I usually pray for and look forward to a happy day which means a good mood all the way! I don't like being in a bad mood but some situations cannot be helped. Whenever I am in a bad mood, maybe sad or pissed, I prefer to have someone cheer me up!
It's not easy to cheer up a person who is in a bad mood. It takes the perception and knowledge of such a person.
When I am in a bad mood, I like to withdraw into myself, reflecting and examining the situation or incident that threw me into the mood, trying to understand the reason why such a situation happened,...etc. Hahaha! I do have such fun in my head.
When there is no one to cheer me up, after a 'fun' time in my head, I cheer myself up! To be left alone never works well for me because I would feel ignored like no one cared. But a simple, "Hey, what's going on with you? You are quiet. Is everything okay?" makes me happy and I come out of my bad mood! If he/she is a person I can talk to, I go ahead and open up. If not, I just smile and move on.
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2️⃣ Would you ever take back someone who cheated?
It's a simple NO.
Experience has taught me that everyone has been cheated on at some point in time. I don't necessarily mean a male-female relationship. It could be a sister or a friend or a parent. Do you know a mother can cheat on her daughter by loving an outsider more than she would love her daughter? It happens and it's cheating.
I have been cheated on several times and it's heartbreaking every time. Sometimes, I think it would get better like I won't feel any pain but I still do. That's because I am that sensitive. I have very few people I call my friends and hold them very close to me. So you can imagine my hurt when any of them cheats on me!
One thing I value so much is loyalty. I practice it and expect it in equal measure from people close to me. Outsiders or acquaintances don't owe me any loyalty.
I remember a colleague looking at me and asking, "Why do you like to take a panadol for other people's headaches?" Believe me, I stared at him in shock that day and did a lot of reflection. I did not realize that I always went the extra mile to help, beyond and above what any reasonable person would do, and defend people to the point that some people would fight me because I stood in the way of the people they wanted to fight.
Despite this, I have been cheated on. Some people did it on purpose while some unknowingly but It hurts every time. I see cheating as disloyalty, a way of saying a person is not good enough so I choose someone else.
When I discover the cheating, I move on and never look back again. This is because whoever cheated once, will most likely (99%) do it again.
Importantly, I have learned to love myself, know my self-worth and learn to leave the scene when the ovation is still loud.
This is my entry to the Ladies of Hive Community Contest #56. I invite and
to participate. Thank you for visiting my blog.