One of the greatest disservice that the Beauty Pageantry competitions like the "Most Beautiful girl in the World" or in any country has done to us is to give young girls a false ideology that beauty is a certain specification.
We now subconsciously believe that to be beautiful, you must be of a certain height, look a certain way, have certain size and shape, wear a certain type of dress, make a certain style of hair and speak in a certain way.
I write this to share my thoughts on the fact that, I've come to acknowledge and understand that beauty is not a competition.
Some people are Tall, while others are not as tall.
Some have a round robust figure and some are slim and slender.
Some are light skinned and some are dark skinned.
Even our hair type, colour, texture, wave patterns are different.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
Many ladies struggle with the inferiority complex because they believe in one part of their mind that they have to look a certain way to be tagged beautiful.
Hence, they don't appreciate their God given features and are constantly in the race of wanting to be like another.
Trust me, if we don't begin to love ourselves, we'll never be happy.
We were not created to be like another person, we are to be ourselves.
Hence, we must embrace our uniqueness and explore ways to enhance our uniqueness and not wanting to change to another.
Growing up, I thought being beautiful was to make a certain kind of hairstyle.
But I later noticed that the fact that an hairstyle looked great on someone doesn't mean it will look great on me too
We have different shapes of head and face, I later figured and I resorted to making hairstyles that suit my face shape and skin colour.
Confidence in Beauty
There's this confidence that every woman who is truly beautiful puts on.
And this is not borne out of the fact that she's wearing expensive and extravagant makeup or dresses and jewellery.
Rather it is born out of her value and appreciation of herself.
A woman who is confident in her beauty pays attention to things that keeps her naturally radiant.
Radiant Beauty
As much as I love make-up and how it makes us look beautiful as ladies, I cringe when I see some amazing ladies who use makeup and we cannot recognise them anymore.
Makeup is meant to enhance certain features you already have.
And trust me, less is always better.
As much as I love colours, I would usually prefer nude makeup anyday anytime.
It just gives that subtle raise to your already pretty face.
You would agree with me that beauty is first internal before external.
This goes down to as minute as our daily routines that enhance our inner peace, our health and composure.
Do you take time out to rest adequately?
As much as we are in the era of feminism and all, I believe women are not meant to lose their femininity.
Many women have become masculine in their approach to life, such that they work round the clock leaving little or no time for adequate rest.
Hence, they are always stressed out, cranky and fatigued.
You find acne breakouts commonly too because of this lack of adequate rest.
Dear lady, pls learn to take a chill pill and rest.
Incorporate it in your daily, weekly and monthly activity.
You'll thank me later 😊
Do you prioritise your Peace?
When your mind is everywhere 🤯 and you are constantly worried about things, especially things beyond your control, you deprive yourself of enjoying a life of ease, peace, joy and beauty.
Don't get me wrong, we are meant to be mindful about others but the moment your mindfulness becomes something that constantly keeps you worried then you may need to back off.
I'm a Christian, and part of my guiding principles for life is not to live a life of worry.
Worry never changes anything.
So rather that getting all worked up for things I have no control over, I choose to pray about them.
Of course, sometimes it still lingers, but taking this little step helps me overcome worry at the end of the day.
Do you Take care of your health?
While growing up, my dad would typically force me to drink water 💦 while eating.
I felt he was been too hard on me, but as I grew up, I discovered that he was doing the best for me.
This little task as simple as taking adequate amounts of water can be a game changer in your beauty journey.
Water helps to clear out toxins from the body and keeps your body cells hydrated leaving your skin supple and fresh.
Closely knitted to this is your intake of healthy foods.
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If you spend all your money on junks but you don't invest in taking healthy foods like fruits and vegetables, it will tell sooner or later on your skin.
Hence, to maintain a radiant and beautiful skin, its essential (ecencial 😂) to incorporate fruits and vegetables in your diet.
Choose the right skin care products.
This doesn't have to be expensive and plenty.
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Get your perfumes, deodorant and body spray, get your sunscreen 🧴, Face Serum, moisturizers, cleansers, exfoliants, soap 🧼 and body oils, hair shampoos and conditioners, gels, mousse e.t.c.
Do what works for you.
All these are only meant to enhance your already beautiful skin and hair.
If you're like me that most of your skin care products expire in your room because of lack of use, then gather here for a selfie 🤳
So I've decided to stick with only face serum and body oil mainly for harmattan😂
Ensure to practice good hygiene.
Bath regularly, brush 🪥 your teeth well, smell nice.
Lest I forget,
Know your body type and wear dresses that fit your body type.
Choose shoes that are feminine.
I'm not really a fan of heels👠but don't be the lady that is always on palm slippers 😂 or crocs, or sneakers.
Once in a while switch things up. Only ensure its comfortable for you.
Dear Ladies of Hive,
I hope you were able to relate with the things I spoke about here.
Thank you so much for reading my post today
Cheers to looking more radiant and beautiful.
Cheers to owning and embracing our uniqueness and remembering that beauty is not a competition.
See you soon.