LOH #286 | Bullying and addiction is not something that should be glorified ✋🏻🚫 [ESP/ENG]

Hello, Ladies Of Hive, I hope you’re having a lovely day. Today, as always, I’ve been reading the questions our friend Hive account@marivic10 has suggested we answer. Two questions on different topics that can help us get to know each other better and also find out what we would do in certain situations that arise in life in general, such as bullying, which can occur in both childhood and adulthood, although, as we get older, it tends to be disguised as practical jokes or dark humour. And what’s more, I’ll also be sharing with you some of my love of cinema and how I feel about a film that has truly changed the way I see life.

What are your thoughts on school bullying? How would you address it? If you have children, what would be your best advice for your child if they were to become a victim of bullying, and what would you do?

I remember that when I was a child, people always told me I was very delicate or extremely sensitive, as if that were the worst thing about my personality. Some of the people who said this were close relatives, older people who, in their own ignorance, fell into repeating the patterns of abuse that they themselves may have experienced and were unable to cope with, rather than finding a way to deal with their fears, they took them out on those who could not or did not know how to defend themselves, like me, who was small and simply going through many changes that may well have made me so sensitive. But that trait of my personality helped me to be more empathetic towards myself and others, especially when I was at school; I remember always trying to treat my classmates as kindly as possible because I didn’t do to others the things I wouldn’t want done to me. I was like a miniature adult in a child’s body; I found it quite hard to get past certain things, especially because I thought that once I grew up everything would be easier, but it turns out that adults are responsible for raising their children, which is why I think bullying starts as a way of treating others at home. If a child sees their mum or dad speaking disparagingly about someone, or using harsh language, that’s what they’ll repeat, because what we reflect is also part of how we’ve been brought up and part of our own personality. Many of those who resort to bullying have deep-seated fears; they feel they must find a target to inflict harm upon so as not to become victims themselves. As it all starts at home, if I had children, I think I would remind them that respect is earned and that we are all important; no one is superior or inferior. As human beings, we are equal, even if we look different on the outside. I would always look for ways to remind them not to let a situation where they are hurt lower their self-esteem, that other people’s opinions are merely a reflection of what they themselves carry inside. You cannot give what you do not have; if you do not know how to give love, it is very likely that your whole life will be a struggle and you will always end up in relationships where things do not work out for the best because you have the wrong approach to relating to others. Respect for others is important, but so is knowing our own limits, so I would tell my son that he doesn’t have to put up with anything just because he doesn’t want things to escalate. It’s much worse if you let this kind of mistreatment go unchecked, as it implies you don’t have the power to stop the situation, and I believe there’s always a way out and a solution for those who bully others. Doing the right thing might not earn you the applause or approval you’re hoping for, but that’s not what really matters. It’s always better to have a clear conscience than to go through life hurting others; in the end, what you give comes back to you at any moment.

Are you a fan of horror movies, action movies, or are you more into romance? Tell me about a movie that taught you an important lesson.

I’m the sort of person who tends to watch more dramas; I like seeing real-life stories that depict situations any human being might experience. Above all, I like them to be interesting and to convey an important message or insight – the sort of film you watch, and even years later, you still remember it because of the lasting impression it leaves on you. There are several films in this genre that I’ve enjoyed, but there was one that really made me think at the time about how strong the desire to see someone well can be, even as that person is self-destructing. The film is called Beautiful Boy and tells the story of a young man struggling with drug addiction. It’s very hard to watch because it shows not only his decline due to addiction, but also the family’s perspective, particularly that of his father, who remains deeply concerned for his son right until the end of the film. It’s harrowing; the scenes make you feel for not just the young man, but also his father, his siblings, his mother – they all suffer in silence in their own way for this son who is lost, and the saddest thing is that he makes several attempts at rehabilitation but keeps relapsing. There’s a scene where the father tells the mother that there’s nothing more he can do for their son; they also show flashbacks between the young man’s childhood and the present day, which makes it even sadder to watch. It isn’t one of my favourite films, but it did make a big impression on me; I remember crying and feeling really low when it ended. However, one cannot ignore the fact that it is a good film with excellent actors and a story that could be that of many people in real life, not just in fiction.

I hope you liked this post, and I would also like you to leave me your comments; I will gladly read them and will respond to them. Big hugs. 🤗