Greatings, ladies of the hive community. I want to believe we are all doing great in our different parts of the world. This week's contest topics are quite interesting, and I must commend the judge of the week for coming up with such thoughtful questions for us to share and learn from each other. I was skeptical about which of the questions to answer, but finally, I am settling on question one. Interested in joining the contest? Kindly check out this post for more details about the contest.
I have had cases of misunderstanding from different people in the past and even presently.
Whenever I give corrections to people, it turns out negative; I get misunderstood so easily; the feedback looks like misinterpreted words; and this has been giving me much concern, so I began to ask myself, Why do people always misunderstand me whenever I give corrections?
Sometimes I feel that people can really use a microscope to view my heart; perhaps they could understand my feelings about the subject of the matter for a better understanding and to avoid misinterpreting my words in different ways. I think I lack the right words to express myself clearly to people most of the time, and this has led to misunderstandings and sometimes unnecessary conflict. You see, I am the type that, whenever I learn something and am given an assignment about it, I will strive to give it my best for a better outcome. I think I have this commitment spirit in me, a kind of zeal to get things right where possible, no matter the time and energy it could cost me. I forgot that not everyone can be like me, and so seeing people get things wrong and being aware of it I hardly overlook it. I will give corrections immediately with that burning spirit in me, and I won't rest until I see that the person has done the task correctly. Of course, people's understanding differs, and this has landed me in unnecessary disputes with my fellow humans.
Recently, I started pressing my ignore button because I am still yet to figure out how best to give people corrections without getting them annoyed. The other day, on the Neoxian City Discord server, I saw a newbie tagging 29 people in a post in Hive, and he kept editing the post up to seven times. The more he edits, the more I receive his tags and those of others. Then in the city chat, I told him that the notifications from him alone are becoming alarming and that whenever he is making a post that requires tagging a lot of people, he should double check the post prior to hitting the publish button so he wouldn't have any reason to retag people because not everyone likes that. To my greatest chagrin, this newbie got offended by my corrections. He totally misunderstood me and didn't talk to me for a few days, and then I had to apologize to him if my words got him offended. This is just one typical example of the issue I have been dealing with. I remember the day I saw a woman who published a post in hive with part of her breast showing. I was uncomfortable about it and reached out to , seeking the right words to use in correcting the author, but at last we concluded not to bother about it as I was uncertain about the outcome. Will she misunderstand me again by the corrections or not? I wouldn't know!
We are all humans raised in different family backgrounds with different understandings, so misunderstanding is inevitable. However, I would love to have tips from anyone on how best to approach others while correcting them in order to avoid misinterpretations of words and unnecessary conflicts.
Thank you for reading through!!.
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