So to the ladies it's really been a whole lot of choices out there ,like in reality some things are just not to be allowed especially when it comes to making choices and getting married too..
Here is just a little story from a friend that had one of the most shocking experience in her marriage.
The lady have been married for 2years and when she got married, her man was just 28 while she was 21,
Her husband was all loving and caring after their first year untill her elder sister came to visit them she was 34.
It was just she, her elder sis and her younger brother that her mum and dad gave birth too ..the boy was still in University and he's 18.
Her parents are both alive and they live together.
The said elder sis was actually helpful during her stay especially when it comes to helping her clean and cooking ,like she and the sister were doing all these things together when ever she comes back from work.
Then just 2weeks after her sisters stay, "because the elder sister stayed for 2weeks too before leaving".
she noticed her husband was hardly home afterwards,
He hardly comes back after work ,normally she comes home before him but he comes like after 1hr later ,but this time he stays for 3 to 4hrs before coming home.
She got worried and decided to ask him if anything changed at work ,but he said it was nothing that he only had few things to do at work thats why he's mostly returning late .
2months later, he stopped sleeping with her ,and moved to another room , claiming he needed space to think to enable him meet up projects giving to him at work ,
Funny thing is she was suspected something because her husband started acting strange especially during calls and she was thinking of what to do and how to find out what he was really upto .
She met a friend she complained too and asked for advice and the friend suggested she buys a smaller phone that can record stuffs and place in the husbands room in a hidden place ,and she was told to do it either when he is around or before he comes back.
After 4days she couldnt hear much because he was always muttering on those calls ,
Then on the 5th day it was all clear but the conversation was not long
He was on the phone with a lady and he said "this your sister is not letting me rest in this house o i think i will move in with you for some days".
And the caller responded with "no problem come on sunday when shes at church".
The lady said she was just angry and furious and mad all at the same time, you can imagine the shock.
She wanted to be sure and didnt say anything till the sunday .
Early in the morning the husband dressed and told her he was going to visit a friend that he wont be going to church with her, he was even carrying a small bag .
Just around 6pm in the evening she decided to go to her elder sisters place and to her biggest shock on getting there, her own husband was spreading the sisters clothes while the sis was giving him peg to use hang the clothes ..like this was something her husband have never done with her before..
It was both shocking and painful and she couldnt believe her own big sis can do that ,her elder sis is already engaged to someone and thats the painful part ..
She only confronted her sister and left the place,
Moved in with a friend of hers and was just seeking for advice on what to do , she already told her parents and she was thinking her sis must have used something to trap her husband because the sudden change was just obvious.
Well this is just an example of how life can play another different role in a life we planned and it is never our fault ,but the best we can always do is to try and be better and positive,