When I saw this week's question, I was about to talk about my love relationship when I was in college. But my brain said, wait a minute; am I forgetting something?
I almost forgot about my first love when I was in sixth grade, we both were. He was a neighbor, we were friends from toddler age, and later we grew some feelings for each other.
I don't know, if I should say that love. Because now when I look back it feels like we were silly butterflies trying to figure out new emotions and we were in each other's experiment zone.
You may also relate to this. Now, my 11 years old daughter is in the same age and I reconfirm this.
Whatever it is, it was my first love and I said 'I love you' to him for the first time.
Story time.
We went on a mini-date after school in a nearby park. I was so afraid because dating and especially at such a young age is prohibited in our culture. It was our first date and we decided to take the risk.
It was he who said love you to me first and insisted to listen from me the same. I was too shy and was not saying it until he almost forced me. But it felt nice. The butterflies in the stomach. Oh! I kind of feel them now after so many years.
We were not been able to be on a second date. Because somehow my parents got to know what was going on and we got scrolled to do such things. We continued talking till eighth grade but nothing more happened.
We are not in communication anymore.
Back then we were trying to explore our emotions. Although no kiss or even holding hands happened that time; we both knew we wanted all of that.
Our love language couldn't flourish but it would be a physical touch for sure if we could get the chance.
Later, when I become an adult I fall in love, a true kind of love. It was pure and emotional, I still kind of miss him. We are not together either but that relationship was something that gave me every lesson of love.
I'm not ashamed to confirm that my love language is understanding and making a connection with my partner with physical touch. An intimate relationship means a powerful bond between the two of us, to me.
The truth is the language to express my love has transformed over the years. Now, in my almost 40s I don't crave for and want to express my love through physical touch. Rather, I express it through deep emotional connection, affection, confirmation, care, and thoughtful gestures.
And you know what, my husband and I came to good terms in this way - building a deep emotional connection through all those significant ways to come closer. I came to realize this is what much more is needed to run a smooth married life.
There's no bad feeling, no judgment; express your love the way you want and find the best way for yourself to express it. Just don't forget to remember to value yourself and the values of the relationship.
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