More than just a union is marriage. it requires alot of understanding and some skills to maintain.
Here are nine competences to learn before and after marriage:
- Develop your spiritual transactional skills: Learn to be lead by Gods word, pay attention to how people treat others.
Be shrewd enough to prioritize God. - Acquire the skills of hospitality, accommodating others, hosting, and being hospitable with your space. Be kind and practice kindness.
- Develop your communication skills (don't speak your mind all the time in your marriage). Words have the power to evoke powerful images and feelings. When speaking, maintain composure. Even when furious.
- Practice forgiving others and letting go.
Forgiveness and generosity are fundamental to marriage.
Four people need to be placated on a regular basis.
a) Learn to ask for forgiveness from others, from God, from yourself, and from others. - Develop the ability to be resourceful and get more done with less. Being clever and resourceful both refer to the capacity to accomplish more with less.
- Develop your negotiating skills "You're going to run into problems if you don't know how to bargain.
- Develop a mindset of sacrifice
( Love is sacrifice) you gonna scrifice for each other. - Maintain a private but not secret relationship. Dont be too secretive, let your mentor or close
- Acquire conflict resolution skills
Every marriage has its share of misunderstandings, but it's how you respond to them that counts.
All relationships' worst dread is conflict.
Why there must be conflict:
Family life is different from marriage because it involves two different people.
" When you love peoole you give them liscence to hurt you.
How to handle conflict:
- Be the one who wants to solve the problem; adopt the proper attitude. Don't make things worse by holding grudges against your partner. Always try to reach a mutually agreeable solution.
- Learn to persevere; never give up ( What you thought you couldnt take, the capacity to take it is there)
- Sow good seeds: When dealing with conflict, sow positive seeds and avoid disparaging your partner merely because you don't get along with them.
- Before inviting a third party, consult with your partner first.
- Consult experienced advisors
- Find a solution right away. Be motivated to find a solution and maintain your love for your mate.