2️⃣ What are your thoughts of a "house husband?"
Would you be okay with a relationship where roles were reversed?
Roles. By definition, this is an actors part in a play, or the function assumed or part played by a person in a particular thing or situation.
In this week's question, we are asked if we are okay to switch roles?
This made arise to more questions in me, because, if we are role playing, I wonder who the director is... 🤔
You see, I am married to my wife, who naturally is a very domesticated and caring and loving. Brief background: we are lesbian married couple, she is the butch (more masculine role) and i am the femme (feminine). But when it comes to house keeping, I am more of the "work-oriented" one in our relationship. I can do household chores, but I am not naturally inclined to be a house wife. And she works too, but she has this initiative to take care of the house more than me. Just to give an idea: She makes my lunch food every single working day.
So, if I will have to translate our married life, she is the "House Husband". Are we okay with it? Aren't I suppose to be the one to do the cooking, cleaning and house tidying since I am the "woman"? Does her being more domesticated put her in a belittling risk?
Where have all these assumptions of women having to do all of these things and not be shared by their partners? Of course, it is our old society and all those that have all died that processed us to believe that women has to do these feminine things so the "man" can do better things. That Man is equipped to do more than just household things. That these things are not manly.
We have been so broken to keep growing in that concept of
Man = Money and Woman = House.
In reality, isn't more manly for a man to be equipped with skills to prepare and feed you? That the concept of the man taking care of a woman, is evident in his actions an not in his bank account contribution?
To each is one.
We may all have partners in life, and the way I see it, we both are active contributors to the life we are trying to make.
My loving Dy love, takes care of food for me and I take care of our future plans and health appointments for both of us.
I always tell her that, without her taking care of me, I will not be able to go to work not worrying of my food for lunch, and that is such a huge part of why I am able to be the best in what I do.
And to the contrary, I respect her more because of the household things that she always finds time to do for us. And she understands and respects, that even if I try, this is really not my area of expertise.
So my answer to the question is YES. Not because I am on the other side enjoying the benefits but because I am a firm believer of equality between genders, and sweeping the floor does not really asks you if you have bosoms or balls.
Domestic Partnership means to be both participating in domestic households. We all just have to see that both men and women, in a heterosexual relationship, are both living in the house, both contributes in its mess, equally both has the responsibility to clean after themselves. This is co-living scenario.
Firmly, I can say that I am proud of the so-called "House Husbands" and those that are truly Man enough to accept this challenge and those partners, that helps in the house generally. These are the true men, because they arise where the need is. If the mother needs to go to work and cannot deal with the house, it takes a SuperMan to know and realize that taking care of his family comes in all forms, shapes and sizes - laundry, dishes, and food prep too.
Photo credits:
https://www.istockphoto.com/photo/man-wearing-superhero-mask-and-cleaning-supplies-with-cape-gm108273614-9318256
Used Bitmoji for my avatars.
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I am now inspired
Let me do some cleaning.
