I've been there; not so much in overtly traded friendships, but in ones where it felt like I was putting far more of my energy and life into them than I was getting back. Where the lack of reciprocity felt heavy. You know, relationships go through seasons. Sometimes our friends need us a little more than we need them, and vice versa. But unless, for the most part, the relationship is reciprocal, it's time to acknowledge that it no longer feeds your soul and could be eroding your sense of peace or holding you in stasis. Well done for letting go of the person inside of you who was being run roughshod over, pandering to others who did not appreciate your friendship and grace. You are right, that sometimes we need to become a little selfish, because our wellbeing matters too 💗