Dealing With Derogatory Remarks

I am a happy person who love healthy parties and once I'm in the mood for party, I don't let anything that anyone would say to easily offend me. Whenever I'm in a party, I carry myself with a lot of self respect.

If someone eventually decides to make a negative remarks about me, I would remain calm and act a though I didn't notice. I would focus on enjoying the party to the fullest instead of letting their words affect my mood.

Gossip is often said in one's absence, if it never gets to my notice, then it simply remains a gossip. But if it eventually becomes public, I will still handle it my own way. I naturally overlook people who try to spread negativity around me.

I will act as if I am not the person they are referring to, and in the end, they are the ones that will end up embarrassing themselves. I will remain calm and look so unbothered that people may not even realise that their comments are directed to me.

But after the party, if I feel it is necessary, I can then calmly confront the person about their behaviour. But if not, I might decide to let go after all their nagative remarks did not add or make me feel less of myself.

HOW I IMAGINE MYSELF AS A MOTHER IN-LAW IN THE FUTURE.

I have never truly felt love from my own mother in-law. She tried to control how things were done in my home, insisted that her son always obey her, and even went as far as telling him lies about me and pressuring him to act on them. At one point, she even encouraged him to beat me. But I am grateful for the kind of man God blessed me with, who did not allow those actions to destroy our home.

Because of this painful experiences, I have made a firm decision to be completely different. I want to be a loving, supportive and understanding mother in-law. I will respect their opinions and the homes they are building with my sons. If I ever need anything from my son's, I will go through their wives as a sign of respect for their marriage and their role in the home.

I will treat my daughter in-law like the daughters I never had, showing them love, care, and kindness. I will pamper them and make them feel valued, remembering that they too are someone else's children just like my sons are mine. I want them to feel comfortable enough to talk to me about any challenges in their marriage, and I will always listen and offer guidance without taking sides.

I also believe in giving them space to grow their homes. I will not impose myself by visiting too often, but I will make sure our bond remain strong. My home will always be open to them, and they will feel free to visit anytime they wish. I will show them love in words and actions, even through thoughtful gifts, so that whenever they are with me, they truly feel at home.

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